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  • in reply to: Safe and Brave #449555
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita

    Is there anything you want to say? ❤️

    in reply to: Parent Life #449543
    Alessa
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    Hi Everyone

    Does anyone have any advice for a 2 year old hitting?

    He hits and bites at home when he’s grumpy. And today at his baby class he started doing it with other children. It was very busy and there were a lot of new kids. He has difficulty sharing being an only child and he was hitting when children were trying to take things he was playing with, or when he wanted what they were playing with.

    So embarrassing. 🙈

    ❤️

    in reply to: Ah James, Oh James Poor James #449542
    Alessa
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    Hi James

    Might not be able to escape suffering, but you’re a pretty swell guy! You are appreciated and loved for being you. Just as you are. ❤️

    in reply to: Trying to find a new job #449538
    Alessa
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    Hi Calm Moon

    Yes, it was very healthy and brave of you to leave your previous workplace. I’m sorry to hear that you are worried about your finances. Good luck with your job search, I hope you find something that suits your needs soon! Try to remember to take care of yourself and relax. It sounds like you are doing your best. ❤️

    in reply to: Compassion and respect during times of conflict #449537
    Alessa
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    Hi Tee

    I’m glad to hear that I haven’t hurt you. That would be the last thing I would want to do. ❤️

    I have always struggled with conflict because of my PTSD. I’m a bit better with it now than I used to be. The slightest hint of negativity and I would break down crying in the past and that was if I felt like the person wasn’t doing it intentionally.

    There are some things that I can’t talk about in a public space, but if you would like to email me. I’d be happy to talk about more freely there. I understand if that isn’t something that you’re comfortable with though. ❤️

    in reply to: Anger *trigger warning* SH & SA #449520
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita

    Thanks, I understand ❤️

    in reply to: Feeling misunderstood by extrovert mom #449519
    Alessa
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    Hi Miss Duchess

    I’m sorry to hear that you had a difficult conversation with your mother today. ❤️

    It sounds like she didn’t apologise. I’m sorry that she didn’t help you to feel better. ❤️

    You did a good job trying to talk to her about your feelings. I’m sorry to hear that they were dismissed. ❤️

    in reply to: Compassion and respect during times of conflict #449518
    Alessa
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    Hi Tee

    I worry that I hurt your feelings and made you sad again. ❤️

    I’m sorry for panicking and rushing things. I just wanted to be there from start to finish and I couldn’t cope with any more arguing. ❤️

    I don’t judge you Tee. ❤️

    I can understand your feelings and perspective. ❤️

    I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to make you feel like your pain is any less valid. I know that you value your resilience. I simply didn’t want to hurt you. ❤️

    in reply to: Compassion and respect during times of conflict #449499
    Alessa
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    Hi Tee

    I think that I might have some ideas about what you would like to talk about. It was a bit reductive because I was feeling stressed. Not really a nuanced perspective. I’m happy to listen, talk, explain and apologize where needed. Please try not to worry and rest. You remind me of my old therapist whom I was very fond of. ❤️

    in reply to: Compassion and respect during times of conflict #449498
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita

    Thanks, I just want to rest a little first if that is okay. ❤️

    in reply to: How to stop holding grudges against nasty people from my past #449497
    Alessa
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    Hi Miss Duchess

    Meditation and gratitude practice help me a lot. Therapy too. Learning about Buddhism helps me too. It is all training to develop more positive thoughts and a more flexible perspective. ❤️

    I think that loneliness is very hard for people and the only cure is really putting yourself out there and finding your people. That you have friends is proof that you can do it again, so don’t be disheartened. You have been doing really well with it, facing your fears putting yourself out there even though it is not comfortable right now. I know it is not easy, but you are doing the right things. ❤️

    Recently, I meet someone that I would like to be closer friends with and it hasn’t worked out because their lives are so busy with travelling. It is nice to touch base when she is around though. 😊

    The difficulties are still relatively fresh for you as well. They will start to become easier in time. Sure you might always have memories that come up. But you can learn to take care of yourself when that happens. Be kind to yourself, not judge yourself for it. It is part of the human experience and how our minds work. We need to be able to remember to learn. ❤️

    in reply to: How to stop holding grudges against nasty people from my past #449496
    Alessa
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    Hi Roberta

    I just wanted to say. Bless your soul! ❤️ Your father is lucky to have you. I know it is hard taking care of a loved one. I know it is painful, but he gets such excellent care and so much love with you. Such a beautiful nature you have as well and an excellent perspective. ❤️

    in reply to: Compassion and respect during times of conflict #449483
    Alessa
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    Hi Everyone

    I’m sorry. I don’t blame anyone. I’m just stressed. It is just a difficult situation. I should have stepped away sooner. I was trying to help, but I don’t think I did. ❤️

    in reply to: Compassion and respect during times of conflict #449474
    Alessa
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    I’m not Anita’s speaker. I was just giving my perspective of the whole situation. I’m not going to be here. Good luck everyone! ❤️

    in reply to: Compassion and respect during times of conflict #449470
    Alessa
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    Oh and as Brandy said, it is important to manage our difficulties in a healthy way. We have a responsibility to do that. ❤️

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