Thank you for the beautiful songs Yana! It’s so cool that you wrote one of your own. ❤️

I really like this song I Ain’t Worried by One Republic. 🎶

I don’t know what you’ve been told
But time is running out, no need to take it slow
I’m stepping to you toe-to-toe
I should be scared, honey, maybe so
But I ain’t worried ’bout it right now (right now)

Keeping dreams alive, 1999, heroes
I ain’t worried ’bout it right now (right now)
Swimmin’ in the floods, dancing on the clouds below
I ain’t worried ’bout it
I ain’t worried ’bout it
(Hey)
I don’t know what you’ve been told
But time is running out, so spend it like it’s gold
I’m living like I’m nine-zeros
Got no regrets even when I’m broke, yeah
I’m at my best when I got something I’m wanting to steal
Way too busy for them problems and problems to feel, yeah, yeah
No stressing, just obsessin’ with sealin’ the deal
I’ll take it in and let it go
But I ain’t worried ’bout it right now (right now)
Keeping dreams alive, 1999, heroes
I ain’t worried ’bout it right now (right now)
Swimmin’ in the floods, dancing on the clouds below
I ain’t worried ’bout it
I ain’t worried ’bout it
(Hey)
Ooh, I ain’t worried
Ooh (ooh), oh, no
I ain’t worried ’bout it right now (right now)
Keeping dreams alive, 1999, heroes
I ain’t worried ’bout it right now (right now)
Swimmin’ in the floods, dancing on the clouds below
I ain’t worried ’bout it
(Ooh, hey, yeah)
I ain’t worried ’bout it
(Ooh, hey)
I ain’t worried ’bout it

And I really liked the song Happy by Pharrel Williams. 🎶

It might seem crazy what I am ’bout to say
Sunshine, she’s here you can take a break
I’ma hot air balloon that could go to space, huh
With the air, like I don’t care, baby, by the way, huh
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do
Here come bad news, talking this and that (talk, yeah)
Well, give me all you got and don’t hold back (yeah)
Well, I should probably warn you, I’ll be just fine (yeah)
No offense to you, don’t waste your time, here’s why
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do (hey, c’mon, uh)
bring me down, can’t nothin’
(Happy) bring me down, my level’s too high
(Happy) to bring me down, can’t nothin’ (huh)
(Happy) bring me down, I said (let me tell you now), uh
can’t nothin’, uh
(Happy, happy), bring me down (happy, happy), my level’s too high
(Happy, happy) to bring me down (happy, happy), can’t nothin’
(Happy, happy) bring me down, I said
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like (uh) that’s what you wanna do (hey, c’mon, uh)
, can’t nothin’
(Happy, happy) uh, bring me down (happy, happy) my level’s too high
(Happy, happy) to bring me down (happy, happy), can’t nothin’
(Happy, happy) bring me down, I said
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you, ay, ay, ay
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you (hey)
(Because I’m happy)
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do
Huh-huh, come on

Hi Anita

I guess the difficulty for me, is that I have never really felt like a child. I’m what people would describe as an old soul. Even as a child I felt old.

I would say the main difference is that I was quite silly, liked to have fun as a child and had no sense of shame. I just did whatever occurred to me. Running everywhere, rollerblading everywhere even though I was terrible at it and didn’t know how to stop (I would just slam into a wall lol), reading novels everywhere, doing maths in the middle of the night in the summer holidays because my brain was bored and needed something harder to do.

I think that what is really important and often overlooked in adults is a need for unconditional love. Love is given freely to children and pets, but for adults, nope. If they do something wrong they don’t deserve love anymore. I think it’s such a shame and perhaps the wrong approach to life.

No wonder we all feel so separate. Perhaps this is why unconditional positive regard is so important in therapy because people still have that fundamental need and are starved for it. Especially, perhaps the people who came from difficult upbringings and didn’t get it as a child. ❤️

Hi Everyone

It’s lovely to see such a thoughtful exchange of ideas. ❤️

Sorry Yana for being slow to write. I was having difficulties and I don’t have a lot of time to write because I don’t use my phone when taking care of my son. How are you doing? ❤️

I think it’s healthy to put your needs first. ❤️

For me, anger tends to be a secondary emotion. Fear is the primary one. I was fascinated to learn about secondary emotions, because it’s really impossible to deal with the secondary emotion, without dealing with the primary one.

Yes, I agree it is important to step back from trying to change people. A) People don’t like not feeling accepted. B) It’s literally impossible, because the only person who can change things is themselves. In my experience, change happens slowly over time.

I think it’s really good that you notice how others can influence, Yana. ❤️

What helps me with the influence issue is to be mindful about what I’m looking for from a conversation. If the person doesn’t have a suitable nature, I don’t share my feelings. ❤️

Yes, I think that things have to be managed in a healthy way. Enduring for the sake of it, is not the way to go. ❤️

Personally, I struggle with the balance of managing my own needs vs others sometimes. It is complicated because I have a lot of values. I’m trying to work on figuring that out. I feel like the key might be to put in an equal amount of effort into myself and others. ❤️