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  • in reply to: I’m not sure what to do. #454524
    Alessa
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    Hi Laura

    You’re brave! I think I would have immediately fled if anyone was saying that stuff to me in high school. 🤦‍♀️ 🩵

    He’s talking absolute rubbish. Honestly, fair not to be into that. Sounds like it’s not a good fit. You’re not being mean at all! Being mean is saying rude things. You haven’t said anything bad, it is simply how things are and how they make you feel. 🩵

    I wouldn’t worry about both of your besties dating. Chances are they’ll break up soon enough. It is high school! Just means that you have to be polite to your bestie about your current bf if you guys break up first incase she says something to her bf. Cuts down on any unnecessary drama.

    Dye your hair and don’t accept any nasty comments from him about it. It’s your hair! 🩵

    The big question is, what do you want to do about the way you feel? 🩵

    in reply to: Parent Life #454517
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    I hope you aren’t worrying too much about this? I am pretty grounded in the present. I don’t mind talking about these things. I do believe a big war is coming. 🩵

    Hmm skills, land and tools. You aren’t wrong. 😊

    I am interested in foraging. I feel like a lot of skills have been lost in younger generations. Learning to feed yourself from the land. Capitalism has trained us well to buy food from a store. Nature has a lot to offer. 🩵

    All we can really do is focus on passing skills onto our children. So they can get through any difficulties. I suspect you have a lot to teach. 😊 🩵

    in reply to: Parent Life #454516
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    It’s honestly okay. Please don’t worry. 😊 🤍 I’m glad that it was just that. I worried that I might have offended you with advice about recall training. 🤍

    Is the not feeling like writing a good thing or not at the moment? 🤍

    It is hard for me to explore some things as a parent because I’m just dealing with so many other things.

    Today has been a unique day. My son has been very irritable and not wanting to eat his breakfast. Took ages to coax him to finally eat something. He was hysterical poor thing. Then after eating he didn’t want to nap. He’s not having the best day so far.

    How is your weekend going? 🤍

    in reply to: Parent Life #454510
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    But isn’t cutting the national deficit impossible? It’s an issue faced by many western countries. I heard that the national deficit for economies already impacted is predicted to only exponentially increase. 🩵

    I guess the UK is a testing pot right now as our deficit is the largest of any western country. I don’t know all of this is going to affect us.

    I heard that it is very difficult to make changes to policies because they are set by the wealthy who are propping up the country. One solution proposed is to increase taxed on the ultra-rich. Of course, the ultra wealthy aren’t going to go for that. Some countries are already testing playing with the wealth taxation.

    The BRICS thing is fascinating. I can’t complain too much. I didn’t realise that since world war 2 money transfers across the world have to be pushed through the American economy first. I hear that this is particularly devastating for developing countries since borrowing is based on USD and when the USD fluctuates they are left with massive amounts of debt. I guess it is a levelling of the playing field. The world is uncertain and tensions are growing. 🩵

    Interesting! We don’t have fire hydrants in the UK. We just have grates that they lift up on the ground that allow the fire engines to connect to water supplies. I expect pipelines are a universal problem. When I lived in a small town by the countryside we had dark water during summer sometimes. Our water supply was being contaminated by local farmers. 🩵

    Thanks so much for the advice and the well wishes. I’m feeling better now! Take care, thinking of you and your family. 🩵

    in reply to: Parent Life #454503
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Thanks so much! I’m feeling better. 😊 How are you doing? You’ve been quiet recently? 🤍

    in reply to: Parent Life #454456
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    Please don’t worry! 🩵 You’re perfectly fine. 😄 I’ve just not recovered from that bug yet. I have asthma and it got into my lungs, turned into a chest infection and filled them with fluid. So I’ve been a bit down in the dumps. It’s slowly starting to improve a bit now. 🩵

    I think the filter is a great idea. I might look on YouTube about fitting one. I grew up in a hard water area where we would use a filtration jug. But a filter under the sink would be less hassle if it’s not hard to fit. 🩵

    I’m afraid I don’t know much about the economy. I know that things are not in a good way for the UK though. Brexit and COVID devastated our economy. It’s like two hits in a short span of time.

    What are BRICS? That doesn’t sound good at all… 🩵

    in reply to: Parent Life #454353
    Alessa
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    I hope you and your family have a wonderful year too! 🩵

    in reply to: Parent Life #454352
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    Thanks for thinking of us. 😊 Fortunately, we are in an area with good quality soft water. No limescale or anything. I guess the main thing to worry about these days is microplastics. I really should get a water filter. I keep meaning to, but I’ve not gotten around to it yet. 🩵

    in reply to: Friendship gone wrong #454348
    Alessa
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    Hi Sonia

    The only way through the darkness, is to go through it. Emotions can be painful, but they aren’t inherently dangerous. It is hard work, but you come out of it stronger. 🩵

    Well done on setting boundaries even though it makes you anxious. 🩵

    I hope you have a much lighter year ahead of you with less worries, more freedom and joy. 🩵

    in reply to: Friendship gone wrong #454324
    Alessa
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    Hi Sonia

    The difficulty with taking care of others is that they don’t develop the ability to take care of themselves. People need to be given the chance to fail.

    Your happiness is just as important as his. It is your responsibility to take care of yourself, just as it is his responsibility to take care of himself. 🩵

    You haven’t caused his issues, he had them long before he met you.

    If you do your best to take care of yourself, you can be a role model for him to do the same. A different kind of helping. A new chapter for you both. 🩵

    in reply to: Parent Life #454308
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita, Roberta and Tommy

    Thanks so much everyone! 🩵 🤍

    It is okay, Tommy. I think it’s good advice. 😊 I take things too literally sometimes. It makes sense to exaggerate his existing symptoms. 🩵

    All is well that ends well! 🩵 🤍

    Alessa
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    Hi Ivy

    It’s nice to see you around again! A portable dvd player sounds like a great idea. 😁

    I just got my son a cd player. He loves it! 🩵

    Hmm what are your favourite movies and shows? I’m not sure if you’ve already seen some of the things I would recommend?

    Howl’s Moving Castle is a classic! I will keep thinking of other ideas. There is a comedy tv show I enjoy called Red Dwarf. It’s not a cartoon though. It’s loosely sci-fi themed. 🩵

    in reply to: Parent Life #454265
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita, Tee and Tommy

    Thank you all for the well wishes. 🩵 🤍

    He’s definitely feeling better today. He walked around the house and played with his toys. It made me so happy to see him more like his usual self. He’s definitely out of the woods now. 🩵 🤍

    Haha I’m not brave enough to try that one Tommy! 😂

    Yes, Anita that was what the doctor said he had!

    Yes, Tee it was all very frightening. Apparently kids his age can go for 2 weeks without eating much just fine according to the doctor. I didn’t realize.

    I have a migraine, so I’m going to keep this one short. Speak soon! 🩵 🤍

    in reply to: A Personal Reckoning #454255
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    You are doing a really good job taking care of little Anita. 🤍

    Yes, an important realisation. How does it feel knowing that none of it was your fault? Has it started to sink into understanding from logic to belief or emotion yet? Whatever you are experiencing is okay. I find that these things evolve over time. 🤍

    Well, the job of beagles on hunts is to go off lead and hunt rabbits. Of course bring the rabbit back. So it’s possible to train them to go off lead and recall even though they are a harder breed to train.

    I wasn’t trying to suggest letting him off the lead now. Recall training starts on the lead. You pick the word you want to use. In the beginning, I usually start with just standing and waiting for some interest in me, saying the word then praising. Just pairing it. Later on you can give the lead attached to his collar a quick, firm, but gentle tug and say the word. It is like saying paying attention. Then you can just use the word without the tug. And when he recalls reliably on the regular lead some people get a very long training lead. So they can go further away and practice coming back from a larger distance safely.

    Some people use treats. I don’t like to. I trained huskies before with treats and in my opinion it makes recall unreliable. It takes more time to do it without treats. I hear that beagles can be the same way. Difficult like huskies.

    I read that for beagles they should practice self control exercises to help with training. Maybe co-pilot would have some suggestions?

    I really like teaching another command in addition. Looking at you. This is another one you can teach on lead too or even in the house. When he looks at you naturally pair the command and praise. Once okay with recall on a lead you can practice in the house too. 😊

    It makes your life a lot easier for recall if your dog is currently paying attention to you. Having them look at you makes them move a little closer to you and pay attention. It’s less threatening because they are not being told to come back on lead all the time.

    Sorry for the information dump. I hope it’s helpful. 🤍 🤍 🤍

    in reply to: Parent Life #454231
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita and Tommy

    Well he didn’t have a fever yesterday, but he did have one today. I was at the hospital yesterday for hours. He wasn’t peeing and had low blood sugar. At first they tried to send me home with him without doing anything before he was a bit more stable. I refused to leave. After he puked in the cafeteria they gave him some anti-nausea medicine and actually helped me to learn how to take care of him when he is this weak.

    He’s still weak, but keeping some food down now. And now I know how to handle the low blood sugar in the mornings when they haven’t eaten much. Since he wouldn’t drink this morning. I had to syringe juice with electrolytes into his mouth for hours. If he’s not being sick, I think I can do it a bit faster tomorrow since he’s keeping things down today.

    Thank you both for keeping me company and for your kindness, whilst I was worrying about him. 🩵 🤍

    I still hope that maybe he will feel better tomorrow. 🤍 🩵

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