Dear Anita

An innocent mistake anyone could have made! Myself included. 🤍

I didn’t even think about breed specific information either! We just typed different things into the AI. Your research inspired me to see if there was anything else that might help. 😊

Yes, you are right it takes some getting used to. You honestly have good instincts as a dog mom Anita! You’re doing a great job and I’m not just saying that. Puppies will chew anything and a 6 month old dog can do quite a bit of damage unsupervised. 🤍

My pup tore up a vinyl floor in the hallway that had a loose corner when I was out. You figure out random methods to cope lol. I collected cardboard boxes and I would put them out for her to shred before I left. I preferred it be something that was safe and I could clean up easily.

A lot of people choose to crate train for leaving the house. I’ve always lived in flats and had neighbours though. My huskies figured out that they could hold me hostage with their howls. So if you choose that route I’m afraid I don’t have any advice. 😂

The chewing will be chronic until 9 months to a year, once their teeth are fully in and settled. It is really quite painful for them bless and chewing helps to relieve their pain.

It is funny how different breeds have their quirks. My cocker spaniel is a hunting dog too, their job on hunts is very specific, to find, carry and pluck birds etc once they have been shot. She has so much joy running after birds and carrying balls in her mouth. She finds random lost balls wherever she goes. Also her howl is so funny, she sounds like a moose. Gave me a shock the first time she did it. 🤍

Dear Anita

I wouldn’t worry too much about Bogart. He’s still in his settling in period. Anxiety at this stage is expected. He’s only been with you for a little while, he’s still getting used to everything. It is going to take some time for the anxiety to settle, but he will get there. 🤍

I read something interesting about travel sickness, apparently it is worse for beagles because they have a tendency to look down to sniff things, being a hunting dog. The looking down tells the dog that it’s still whilst the movement of the car tells it it’s moving. This conflict causes motion sickness. 🤍

Some beagle specific tips include getting rid of extra scents like car air fresheners and using pillows or a booster seat or something for it to sit on to make it taller. Because it is small, it can’t see out of the window that they are moving. The aim is to get it to look out of the front window.

A tip that sounds helpful to reduce anxiety in the car is feeding it in there without going anywhere. 🤍

Good luck! I hope you find something that helps him soon. Bless his soul. 🤍

That’s fair not picking him up is a good idea. 👍

Hi James

Apologies, if I misunderstood. I was just trying to be respectful of your culture. Some people who are Muslim don’t like to participate in any shape or form in Christian celebrations. 🩵

I agree. My understanding is that Islam, Christianity and Judaism all share the same roots. I don’t believe in division personally. Words are used to describe things and communicate. 🩵

I’m curious to hear about your experience of being in meditation for a year, if there is anything you would like to share about it. 🩵

I share your joy in breathing. Breathe deeply! 🩵 🩵 🩵

Hi Tee

Yes, well I don’t know about left my body. But my body and mind went dark. Then there was white everywhere and a feeling of peace. 🩵

To be fair, I was pretty peaceful going into the whole experience. My trauma may have ironically saved my life. This was before I was assaulted and after I was free of my mother. So I was pretty happy. I didn’t want for anything. I knew to stay calm to preserve oxygen. I figured if it was my time to go, it was my time to go. 🩵

After I was resuscitated, I just went back to swimming, but I was a bit more careful. 🩵

Dear Anita

I’m sorry to hear that you have a sore back from lifting Bogart. 🤍

Is it lower back pain? If so, a back brace might be helpful. The key is not to use it often, because over wearing it can weaken muscles. It would just be for lifting. 🤍

When I was pregnant, I couldn’t wear a back brace obviously because of the baby. I had to wear a tubular bandage over my belly which I folded over to double it up. 🤍

A back brace does provide more support than the bandage. When I had two large huskies, with my fibromyalgia, it helped when walking them because I used a waist lead in addition to a regular one. 🤍

Hi Tee

I hear what you are saying. 🩵

My point is that it is natural to be offended by language such as this. It is what we have been socialised to do. 🩵

It is difficult because everyone has their own perspective to compromise and meet in the middle sometimes. 🩵

Hmm, I’m used to reading some esoteric philosophical texts. To explain how some perceive reality. There is our individual perspective, then there is reality. By the nature of being alive we all impose our own individual perspective. And psychology recognises the interplay of our personal experiences in relationships.

My favourite explanation of reality is visiting Paris. If you visit on a holiday you see a certain aspect of Paris. But there two million people living in Paris, each with their own unique memories and experiences. What is Paris? One person’s recollection? All recollections? Is it the physical place that they all live? What is the truth? 🩵

I feel a mild flutter, but I’m not bothered by it. I trust myself and as you say, look for the best in others. Maybe he isn’t necessarily talking about me. If he is, oh well. He doesn’t know me. Perhaps he is simply talking about pain with burning dna? I have felt pain that I could describe as burning. Perhaps it is just a religious belief? I’m not threatened by a religious belief that I don’t share. 🩵

I don’t sense bad intentions, just words that ruffle feathers sometimes. I’m used to talking to men. A lot of men ruffle feathers. A lack of softness can be viewed as masculinity by some.

I understand. It is good to express how you feel. I don’t judge you for it. 🩵

I guess my perspective is that relationships to words can change. When we are children, we can be very sensitive to harsh words and it can cause a huge amount of damage. Whereas, say with time and healing other words can be less painful compared to difficult memories. Even difficult memories, can be let go of and forgiveness found. When you are confident in yourself, other peoples words don’t matter as much. Perhaps I am finding excuses. But for me, there are lines which have not been crossed. So I’m willing to give benefit of doubt. I’m sure that we have all heard far harsher words. 🩵

Hmmm do I necessarily agree with edgy language? No. Do I share James’s perspective and beliefs? No.

Do you we all deserve to be treat with love and kindness? I believe that we do. 🩵

At the very least, we have had some interesting discussions. Calmer language might not have the same results. I am curious. 🩵