Hi Anita

I appreciate that you are doing your best to try and keep things light? I thought that I was clear before in asking you not to post quotes.

There is a reason that I never do it. Because it is hurtful. You asked recently for your quotes not to be used? I presume because it hurt you?

The difficulty is that on a public forum it can be seen as public shaming.

Can you please stick to the intent of this thread and help this to be a safer place? ❤️

Hi Anita

I appreciate your apology and your willingness to engage in a healthy way. I understand that you are trying your best to learn and adapt right now. ❤️

You were talking to Tee about Brandy suggesting that Brandy might have posted an abusive message. Soliciting Tee’s opinion on her, someone who is not present in this thread and saying that you were going to repost her message. To me, that is gossiping.

You are welcome to try to engage with Brandy or Yana directly on my thread, all I ask is that the nature of thread is honoured and you help to make this a safe and brave space for everyone. It would be helpful to speak to people individually when discussing a conflict. ❤️

I understand that you are hurt by things that were said in the heat of conflict. ❤️

Hi Anita

Please respect the nature of this thread and discuss your issues with Brandy directly with Brandy or make your own thread. Gossiping hurts people. ❤️

I agree with Yana in that quoting other members when in a conflict is bullying. And I’m going to ask Lori to respect my wishes, since this is my thread. ❤️

If you have concerns about bullying you are welcome to discuss them with Lori in the same way that everyone else does. ❤️

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Hi Anita

Do you think Yana or Brandy might feel unsafe too? It was suggested for you to speak directly to people if you have any issues with them. Why do you think that might be? Could it hurt people not being spoken to directly? ❤️

I felt unsafe while the conflict was going on too. ❤️

Hi Anita

Everyone is welcome on my thread, all I ask is that people are respectful and honour the intentions of the thread and help to make this a safe and brave place for everyone. ❤️

I appreciate your intentions. Do you think that perhaps by sharing your feelings about Yana and Brandy you might essentially be inviting them to respond to you? ❤️

My understanding is that Yana is a good person. I don’t know Brandy, but she seems to care about you. ❤️

In my experience, when people are hurt, they use stronger language. The conflict was painful to watch even for bystanders. They are both very caring people, that is why they were hurt. ❤️