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  • January 26, 2026 at 2:20 pm in reply to: Parent Life #454583
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    I’m glad to hear that I didn’t hurt your feelings. 🤍

    He did calm down after his lunch thankfully. Today he had a play date so he had a lot of fun. 😊

    I used to think that people were trying to keep things stable, but during Covid because of difficulties with the Brexit it actually revealed how precarious the situation for people in the UK is. (Not to mention there has been a horrific epidemic of bird flu) I think because of the difficulties occurring so close together we have nothing left. There have been so many shortages of food and various other things. Stores resort a lot to selling rotting food and even ration essentials. People are relying on their gardens for food and chopping wood again for heat because energy is so expensive. Many are going through winter without heat. Companies are passing the cost of the difficulties onto the people. Passing the cost of building future infrastructure onto the people while they continue to turn a large profit. The more companies take from people, the more the government gets in taxes. The government is broke, so they aren’t going to stop this. People here are poor. They have nothing left. Our government is preparing us for a war, talking about mandatory conscription again. I never would have believed it were possible for these things to happen but they have.

    Life has its ebbs and flows. Things get worse before they get better. Wars happen and then they end. Depressions and recessions happen, then they end. Worrying about difficulties can drive you mad. No point worrying. There is enough pain in life without more worrying.

    It sounds like you are enjoying some peace. I’m happy for you! Did Bogart have a good time at the park? 🤍

    Yes, I agree focusing on what I can do helps me too. One day at a time. 🤍

    January 25, 2026 at 11:35 pm in reply to: I’m not sure what to do. #454544
    Alessa
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    Hi Laura

    It’s no problem at all! 😊

    I’m glad that you want to prioritise your feelings. What you want is important too! It is kind of you to be so considerate of his feelings as well. 🩵

    Are you his first girlfriend? Has he been through a break up before?

    I understand, I found telling boys what they didn’t want to hear a bit stressful when I was in high school. 🩵

    One option is to mostly talk about yourself during the break up. It’s not you, it’s me kind of thing. This takes some of the stress off of them. I don’t know if you have any ideas for what you’d like to say?

    Lessening the amount of time you communicate and spend time together can be helpful as well.

    My favourite break up I had when I was in college was spending one last date together. Because we were meeting up when I said that I needed to talk to him about something. He said I think I know what you want to talk about. How about we focus on having a good time right now and talk about it later?

    I hope some of the ideas help! 🩵

    January 25, 2026 at 1:51 pm in reply to: I’m not sure what to do. #454524
    Alessa
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    Hi Laura

    You’re brave! I think I would have immediately fled if anyone was saying that stuff to me in high school. 🤦‍♀️ 🩵

    He’s talking absolute rubbish. Honestly, fair not to be into that. Sounds like it’s not a good fit. You’re not being mean at all! Being mean is saying rude things. You haven’t said anything bad, it is simply how things are and how they make you feel. 🩵

    I wouldn’t worry about both of your besties dating. Chances are they’ll break up soon enough. It is high school! Just means that you have to be polite to your bestie about your current bf if you guys break up first incase she says something to her bf. Cuts down on any unnecessary drama.

    Dye your hair and don’t accept any nasty comments from him about it. It’s your hair! 🩵

    The big question is, what do you want to do about the way you feel? 🩵

    January 25, 2026 at 8:22 am in reply to: Parent Life #454517
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    I hope you aren’t worrying too much about this? I am pretty grounded in the present. I don’t mind talking about these things. I do believe a big war is coming. 🩵

    Hmm skills, land and tools. You aren’t wrong. 😊

    I am interested in foraging. I feel like a lot of skills have been lost in younger generations. Learning to feed yourself from the land. Capitalism has trained us well to buy food from a store. Nature has a lot to offer. 🩵

    All we can really do is focus on passing skills onto our children. So they can get through any difficulties. I suspect you have a lot to teach. 😊 🩵

    January 25, 2026 at 5:43 am in reply to: Parent Life #454516
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    It’s honestly okay. Please don’t worry. 😊 🤍 I’m glad that it was just that. I worried that I might have offended you with advice about recall training. 🤍

    Is the not feeling like writing a good thing or not at the moment? 🤍

    It is hard for me to explore some things as a parent because I’m just dealing with so many other things.

    Today has been a unique day. My son has been very irritable and not wanting to eat his breakfast. Took ages to coax him to finally eat something. He was hysterical poor thing. Then after eating he didn’t want to nap. He’s not having the best day so far.

    How is your weekend going? 🤍

    January 24, 2026 at 2:49 pm in reply to: Parent Life #454510
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    But isn’t cutting the national deficit impossible? It’s an issue faced by many western countries. I heard that the national deficit for economies already impacted is predicted to only exponentially increase. 🩵

    I guess the UK is a testing pot right now as our deficit is the largest of any western country. I don’t know all of this is going to affect us.

    I heard that it is very difficult to make changes to policies because they are set by the wealthy who are propping up the country. One solution proposed is to increase taxed on the ultra-rich. Of course, the ultra wealthy aren’t going to go for that. Some countries are already testing playing with the wealth taxation.

    The BRICS thing is fascinating. I can’t complain too much. I didn’t realise that since world war 2 money transfers across the world have to be pushed through the American economy first. I hear that this is particularly devastating for developing countries since borrowing is based on USD and when the USD fluctuates they are left with massive amounts of debt. I guess it is a levelling of the playing field. The world is uncertain and tensions are growing. 🩵

    Interesting! We don’t have fire hydrants in the UK. We just have grates that they lift up on the ground that allow the fire engines to connect to water supplies. I expect pipelines are a universal problem. When I lived in a small town by the countryside we had dark water during summer sometimes. Our water supply was being contaminated by local farmers. 🩵

    Thanks so much for the advice and the well wishes. I’m feeling better now! Take care, thinking of you and your family. 🩵

    January 24, 2026 at 2:11 pm in reply to: Parent Life #454503
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Thanks so much! I’m feeling better. 😊 How are you doing? You’ve been quiet recently? 🤍

    January 22, 2026 at 11:58 pm in reply to: Parent Life #454456
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    Please don’t worry! 🩵 You’re perfectly fine. 😄 I’ve just not recovered from that bug yet. I have asthma and it got into my lungs, turned into a chest infection and filled them with fluid. So I’ve been a bit down in the dumps. It’s slowly starting to improve a bit now. 🩵

    I think the filter is a great idea. I might look on YouTube about fitting one. I grew up in a hard water area where we would use a filtration jug. But a filter under the sink would be less hassle if it’s not hard to fit. 🩵

    I’m afraid I don’t know much about the economy. I know that things are not in a good way for the UK though. Brexit and COVID devastated our economy. It’s like two hits in a short span of time.

    What are BRICS? That doesn’t sound good at all… 🩵

    January 20, 2026 at 8:14 am in reply to: Parent Life #454353
    Alessa
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    I hope you and your family have a wonderful year too! 🩵

    January 20, 2026 at 8:13 am in reply to: Parent Life #454352
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    Thanks for thinking of us. 😊 Fortunately, we are in an area with good quality soft water. No limescale or anything. I guess the main thing to worry about these days is microplastics. I really should get a water filter. I keep meaning to, but I’ve not gotten around to it yet. 🩵

    January 19, 2026 at 11:41 pm in reply to: Friendship gone wrong #454348
    Alessa
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    Hi Sonia

    The only way through the darkness, is to go through it. Emotions can be painful, but they aren’t inherently dangerous. It is hard work, but you come out of it stronger. 🩵

    Well done on setting boundaries even though it makes you anxious. 🩵

    I hope you have a much lighter year ahead of you with less worries, more freedom and joy. 🩵

    January 19, 2026 at 11:03 am in reply to: Friendship gone wrong #454324
    Alessa
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    Hi Sonia

    The difficulty with taking care of others is that they don’t develop the ability to take care of themselves. People need to be given the chance to fail.

    Your happiness is just as important as his. It is your responsibility to take care of yourself, just as it is his responsibility to take care of himself. 🩵

    You haven’t caused his issues, he had them long before he met you.

    If you do your best to take care of yourself, you can be a role model for him to do the same. A different kind of helping. A new chapter for you both. 🩵

    January 18, 2026 at 11:45 pm in reply to: Parent Life #454308
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita, Roberta and Tommy

    Thanks so much everyone! 🩵 🤍

    It is okay, Tommy. I think it’s good advice. 😊 I take things too literally sometimes. It makes sense to exaggerate his existing symptoms. 🩵

    All is well that ends well! 🩵 🤍

    January 18, 2026 at 1:36 pm in reply to: I’m gonna use a Portable DVD Player instead of using streaming services. #454287
    Alessa
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    Hi Ivy

    It’s nice to see you around again! A portable dvd player sounds like a great idea. 😁

    I just got my son a cd player. He loves it! 🩵

    Hmm what are your favourite movies and shows? I’m not sure if you’ve already seen some of the things I would recommend?

    Howl’s Moving Castle is a classic! I will keep thinking of other ideas. There is a comedy tv show I enjoy called Red Dwarf. It’s not a cartoon though. It’s loosely sci-fi themed. 🩵

    January 17, 2026 at 12:28 pm in reply to: Parent Life #454265
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita, Tee and Tommy

    Thank you all for the well wishes. 🩵 🤍

    He’s definitely feeling better today. He walked around the house and played with his toys. It made me so happy to see him more like his usual self. He’s definitely out of the woods now. 🩵 🤍

    Haha I’m not brave enough to try that one Tommy! 😂

    Yes, Anita that was what the doctor said he had!

    Yes, Tee it was all very frightening. Apparently kids his age can go for 2 weeks without eating much just fine according to the doctor. I didn’t realize.

    I have a migraine, so I’m going to keep this one short. Speak soon! 🩵 🤍

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