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November 14, 2018 at 1:51 pm #236873AliaParticipant
I have applied to over 100 jobs with no success. I’m pretty much done.
November 13, 2018 at 7:45 pm #236775AliaParticipantI feel I should stress this is the absolute worst that could happen but probably wouldn’t. It’s just always at the back of my mind and causes me anxiety. I’m doing everything in my power to prevent this from becoming reality.
November 13, 2018 at 7:15 pm #236771AliaParticipantI try to hide my anxiety and be calm around her. I don’t want her to be in any further pain for me. But if I don’t find a job I won’t have anywhere to tuck her in. While it wouldn’t happen immediately, if I don’t find one soon I fear I will lose all that I have and there is nowhere for me to go. I am lucky that my parents would take her in, at least.
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November 13, 2018 at 9:55 am #236715AliaParticipantNo, my parents are self sufficient and don’t need help. But my decisions do affect others, and one of those is a small child. She’s already being affected by my issues at the present and that is really hurting me. It’s one thing for me to be down but it’s unacceptable(to me) for her to suffer.
I just feel lost and anxious. I’m doing all that I know to do (apply as much as possible, make the most in interviews) but it’s still not clicking. I just want to do the best that I can and make my life the best that I can. I have no one that I can talk to about this in my daily life. No close female friends, no mother, no one. And those I do talk to just do the “you’re awesome, don’t let it get you down.” I just need someone to really bounce ideas off of. I feel if I was “awesome” I wouldn’t be where I am. I’m very frustrated, anxious, and alone.
November 13, 2018 at 8:32 am #236689AliaParticipantAnyone else have any thoughts?
November 11, 2018 at 6:40 pm #236449AliaParticipantHi, Peter, thanks for responding. I think if I understand you right you’re saying to relax and stay calm and things will happen as they need to happen. I just need to be patient and wait?
September 29, 2018 at 12:26 pm #228145AliaParticipantYou are right. I would have to plan for that sort of thing. Honestly that’s a big part of why I haven’t done it so far. I just fear not being able to find anything, and my family suffering for my issues. But right now even taking on something new and making mistakes has paralyzed me. My last employer really didn’t do my confidence any favors.
September 1, 2018 at 11:29 am #224017AliaParticipantI feel worthless and useless being let go from the job. I feel like there’s nothing out there for me. I feel like there’s nothing I am talented at doing.
August 31, 2018 at 8:06 pm #223929AliaParticipantI seem to have issues if I seem confident or set boundaries. I was trying to do both. I did get let go. They didn’t really have a good explanation for that. (Said it was just not a fit but not why even when I asked for clarification.)
August 24, 2018 at 2:57 pm #222917AliaParticipantI talked with a trusted advisor who helped me realize that I am the problem. My ego was too big and I don’t bring what I thought I did to the table. Now the question is, can I accept that? I don’t want to, but that seems like the lesson the Universe keeps trying to teach me that I just refuse to learn. I don’t want to be worthless or useless but that is exactly what I am. Maybe once I learn this things will turn around. It’s hard to wrap my head around but that’s why life keeps tossing this back to me. This is my life lesson.
August 24, 2018 at 1:02 pm #222903AliaParticipantIt has quickly become overwhelming and some things have been missed here or there. I would hope that I wouldn’t, but it wouldn’t surprise me if I was.
August 24, 2018 at 9:50 am #222865AliaParticipantMy duties have expanded, but they also include what I was originally hired to do. I’m doing the work of 4 positions right now.
August 24, 2018 at 9:49 am #222863AliaParticipantThe company is new to this area and this is their first location here. My duties started in one area but because of need they’ve expanded to include positions that they felt were not going to be necessary in our office. (Employees at the home office we’re to do them but it quickly became unmanageable.) I’ve done everything asked and more but I’m still feeling there’s something going on that I’m not aware of behind the scenes. I just got a glowing review two weeks ago but now that doesn’t appear to be the case. I have not changed my working style or attitude.
You have a good idea in creating a plan before the meeting. I’ll start on that tonight.
August 24, 2018 at 3:45 am #222817AliaParticipantUpdated to add: I feel like I’m being set up to fail because the duties I’m performing are in an area completely unrelated to what I was hired for and I don’t have much experience in what I’m doing. Also adding that I’m in my early 40’s but my town is small and there just isn’t the opportunity here that there is in other places. I’m established here so moving isn’t an option and commuting would not be cost or time effective.
October 1, 2017 at 8:35 pm #171197AliaParticipantI’ve been trying to cast the net wider and go with the jobs 1.5 hours away but no luck so far. I’m looking into a possibility on the school side of things, but I don’t qualify for student aid and loans are yet another hardship for me. If I take out a loan it needs to be for more pertinent things (repairs, car, meds).
I’m not seeing a way out at all. At this point I think I just need to stay where I am working. I just don’t know a feasible long term solution.
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