Hi Alex,

I can relate. Let me start there. It’s like you can’t figure out what is real and what is fake. It’s like you don’t trust yourself. I can’t really advise you as I don’t have the answer to your dilemma. What I know for sure is that you must seek happiness for yourself and be ok with letting others do the same. This life is only ours to live. What your boyfriend does, in many respects, is not up to you. You only need to put your focus on your own happiness. I do believe when you do that, you won’t have to intellectualize how you should proceed. It will happen naturally. I think it requires that we live in the moment and accept that we cannot control what the future holds. If you are happy today with your boyfriend, and your needs are being met, then that is your answer. If you are unhappy in this moment, you must discover what makes you happy (content) and move in that direction. Real love is wanting happiness for others regardless of how you fit into that picture. Let the pieces fall where they may. I’ve got to learn not to be unset by the reality of the situation or to be afraid. My happiness is the most important aspect of my life. I hope this helps you to know that you are not alone in your feelings. All I can offer you is my sincere hope that you find your happiness. As I write it, I am taking my own advice. It’s hard. It’s uncertain. I think it’s the only way to be whole. The way forward for me is to spend some time alone – unencumbered by other’s opinions so that I can get centered and figure out what makes me happy. Once I do that, I can be in relationships as an equal partner. One baby step at a time….

Al