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RLParticipant
Thank you Peter. Your response made me feel understood and gave me a new perspective on what happened. I suspect you’re right that he probably felt abandoned and wasn’t prepared to step into my role. I generally put everyone else’s needs ahead of my own, and hate the thought of hurting anyone. In this case I had long been hurting myself and my closest relationships by staying in a career that was a poor fit for me. I simply couldn’t do it anymore. Everyone else in my life was thrilled that I finally found the courage to leave a very lucrative but miserable corporate career to take care of myself and do what I’m passionate about.
I need to come to terms with the fact that my actions won’t always please everyone. Maybe my friend will come around in time- he know how badly my health had deteriorated and how long I had been thinking about starting my own business before actually doing it. But if he doesn’t, then I think that proves that he wasn’t the friend I thought he was to begin with. I’ll focus my attention on the people that lift me up in life instead.
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Are you saying he’s not a friend because of how he acted towards me? Or that he’s not a friend by virtue of him being my staff member? If the latter, I was very close to him and he was someone with whom I shared both my work and personal life. I generally keep in touch with former co-workers that I didn’t have a personal friendship with after I leave a company, so this particularly hurts. He was my “right hand”/”chief of staff” so to speak, and I was also his mentor, grooming him to one day have my job, which is exactly what happened. He wouldn’t have followed me to 3 different companies over 8 years if we didn’t have a personal friendship as well as a work relationship. So I still feel very rejected, hurt, and even a little angry that I did so much to be a friend and mentor to this person who has seemingly blown me off. I don’t know how to stop letting this take up so much space in my mind and heart.
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