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  • March 30, 2018 at 5:37 am #200067
    Amanda
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    Dear Anita,

    Thanks for your reply. I would rather to know the truth than feeling conflicted with the lie. Actions speak louder than words! Anyway, I have learnt a lot. And I believe I deserve someone better. 🙂 I should focus on my self improvement!

    Amanda

    March 30, 2018 at 5:05 am #200057
    Amanda
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    Dear Anita,

    Yes, he was the same man in my previous post. He had gone through his treatment and free of cancer at the moment. He has energy and time to do gardening, decorating his home and hang out with friends. But he told me he wanted to text but don’t know what to say. He told me I am still very very special to him and has a lot of love for me. My gut didn’t feel right, I feel very conflicted that his action didn’t reflect what he said. I thought I was asking for too much. But he clearly didn’t care to be friends with me.

    I know I have to accept that we can’t be friends. I feel bad because I was being told since young I have to be nice to everyone. I feel bad because I can’t be friends with the person I once loved. But I also start to feel the freedom being able to let go of him. Just that the bad feeling still kick in sometime.

    Amanda

     

    September 1, 2017 at 5:59 am #166492
    Amanda
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    Hi Inky,

    Thanks for your reply!

    He cancer is at stage 3 and has finished his treatment. He has been travelling around for work.

    I was struggling to balance between showing my care and giving him space. I text him once a week. He told me he is always happy to hear from me. I was telling him I try not to bother him a lot. He told me he did notice when I didn’t text and ask me do not try not to text him. He may be polite to say that to me. I wish to do the best for him. Sometimes I feel he needs my care, sometimes I don’t. I need to have wisdom to follow his lead. I know I need closure so that I can give my support unconditionally. It’s not easy to move on when I try to care about him and on the other hand, try to forget about him. I know I have to be a better person for myself and for him!

    Thank you!

    Amanda

     

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