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May 3, 2016 at 8:31 am #103454E. ReveParticipant
I can relate to you. I also don’t like my sisters. I probably don’t hate them, but for sure I don’t like them most times. And that’s the thing with family is that you can’t really decide to leave them. You just kind of have to deal with them. I am also the middle child, and I have two sisters. Six years ago, they ganged up on me and decided to exclude me from their circle. I did not talk to them for six years! I was really hurt that they would gang up on me for petty jealousy reasons and leave me out. They were family, and I sometimes acted different from them, but it doesn’t mean they should abandon me. Anyways, I lived my life on my own with friends and my dad, and raised my kid on my own for six whole years. I was pretty happy. I didn’t have to deal with the petty rivalries that sisters push onto eachother just because they can.
My dad forced a reconciliation about a year and a half ago, and I had to start talking to them again one Christmas. IT was hard. But in a way I guess it was needed, because you can’t get rid of them…all my time apart from my sisters had shown me that people need to have boundaries. You need to her that you are your own person, and that you respect her as a family member, but she can’t have any control over you. She needs to grow up and stop being competitive/jealous, and you can’t do that for her, the only thing you can do is make your life simpler and take care of yourself. If you find a way to put distance between you and her, you will find a more peaceful life, even if it means you only see her a couple times a year. That’s how I cope. hope that helps.
May 3, 2016 at 8:15 am #103451E. ReveParticipantI am not sure what happened to make you feel disconnected to him and yourself depression is pretty tough though. But if you need time to be on your own don’t feel like you made the wrong move to break up with him. But on the other hand, if you still love him and think you may want him back, then that’s complicated. I would never break up with someone that I still loved and may want in the future because it is confusing for the person on the other end. It is also kind of misleading and you may be causing him to carry a torch for you. Or even worse is if he eventually finds someone else and you still want him. It is not uncommon for people when they are heartbroken, to quickly fall in love with someone else as a remedy.
Maybe you can work out whatever personal problems you have independently of him. You can do that even if you are still in a couple with him. Maybe instead of seeing him everyday, decide to see eachother every other day. You are in a really fortunate position where he says he loves you, and now you will be able to converse with him about how to make it work with you, and he’d do it most likely. You are more lucky than most people in break-up situations. hope this helps.
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