Hey,
I was going through the posts, and yours particularly caught my attention.
don’t get me wrong, but i can actually feel what your boyfriend is going through or will go through when you will break the news. I faced a similar situation three months ago when my boyfriend broke up with me saying that he was confused and wanted to find the purpose of his life. What followed was two months of begging,pleading,crying and bargaining from my side because i could hardly think of leaving him after 4 and half years of relationship. Today, i am moving on, i too threatened him saying that ‘this breakup would sabotage my career,my studies,my health’, he was scared and he lingered on for a while but clearly he was not doing it from his heart. I realised that i didn’t hv the right to do this, he has the right to move out of this relationship when he doesn’t feel like staying. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will let you go. Ofcourse there will be a period of turmoil and chaos , but he would gradually realise that its selfish to tether someone against their will. He loves you a lot, therefore its natural for him to react that way.
my ex boyfriend had broken the news in a very harsh and inconsiderate manner. I would suggest you that you tell him in a more sober and understanding way. Take time to explain him the details and reasons for this decision. And leave the rest on him and on time.
I have not been able to forgive my ex because he never showed any emotions during our breakup, nor did he explain to me properly. Had he been a bit sensitive , i would not have been this shattered. You don’t do this mistake.:)