Hi Anita, true I did post to vent. Input wise, I suppose I am looking for advise on how to stay strong & be strong for my kids.

I know I have not been happy in my marriage for a long time. My husband is a great manipulator. If it were me looking in at someone else, I would have told them to run for the hills.

Im strong at coping with taking on loads of wirk but not strong emotionally. My sister advised me to come up with a mantra to stop myself engaging with him as he is feeding off this.

I guess I need advice on how to keep my focus & remember why i was not happy either. I am more than willing to work on our relationship, he would just rather walk away.

Thanks.