lol Thank you Anita! I will try to ask him and see what his reply is. I’m just scared the response will be negative and not something what I want to hear.

Anna

Sure, will do Anita. I will keep you posted too. Thank you for listening and Happy New Year!

Hi Michelle,

We’ve known each other since young. His parents and my parents were friends. He was like my sibling up until recently where I think we both got closer.

We weren’t in touch for a long time until 2 years ago when he broke up with his gf. I was the only person he would talk to about it.
however, things have change recently where we would text every single day and we’ve got closer than before.

We met a few times before pandemic.

I feel I am too attached to him and I think he is pretty attached to me too. The reason why I said that is because if he doesn’t hear from me for a few hours, he would ask if I saw his message.

Those are good suggestions. Thank you so much Anita! I will do that and keep you posted.

Anna

Hi Anita,

That’s true. I am actually thinking of sending him a message like sort of giving him an advice as a friend. Something like – he should think about letting his exes move on if he has no intentions of getting back together. It’s his first love by the way. Not the ex he broke up recently. He knows his first ex still loves him. He says he is not attracted to her anymore but still text her because he doesn’t want to look mean.

I also want to add to the text that being friends or reaching out to them is a way he is hanging on and hoping things will work out again.

what do you think?

Anna

Hi Anita,

First of, I am sorry for not updating you sooner. I couldn’t come up with any questions to ask him and a huge part of me is I am still afraid to ask him.

Anyhow, I think I have a clearer answer now. I think the way he sees us is we are like best of friends. We still talk and text every single day. We can video calls for hours without any issues. We update each other’s whereabouts during the time when we are both up (cos we are in different time zones).

The reason why I think we are only best of friends is because he mentioned a few things during our conversations…like:

1. He still talks to his ex, but he said as a friend and there is nothing more. He also mentioned that they would never get back together but joked that if she wants to have a one-night stand, he would sleep with her. However, there would be no emotional attachment involved he says. I don’t know if he was testing to see how I would react or what.
2. We were talking about introducing girls to our friends and he said maybe he should date younger girls.
3. He was talking about all his exes and joking around how he slept with them. I wonder if this happens to any relationships. I mean do people open up and talk about exes like that?
4. He was joking about how if any girls who wants to have sex, he would give them. Sounds like a F**k boy?

We are both like an opened book. We talk about our family problems and stuff. There is no filter. We talk about anything and everything. He even remembers when I said I need to wake up early for a meeting. He would check in to see if I am up.

Regards,

Anna

Hi Anita,
I am not 100% sure if I am expecting a bit too much from him or not. I’ve known him for a long time, and he is like a player so I am not sure if I should take his actions or words seriously. He is a smooth talker. I have seen him talking with other girls before.
The days when he is quiet, I give him space and don’t bother him as well. I talk less on those days because I respect his me-time.
But I feel like he should bring it up and talk about it instead of leaving me hanging sometimes. Am I too much?
However, something tells me we are probably falling for each other especially after when he said he trust me the most, thanked me for always being there, and that nothing could replace me.

I did test him a few days back by not sending him a morning message. He texted me good morning instead and asked if I slept in.

Anna