Hi Adrian,

This is obviously a very personal decision to make.

I personally have four children, first two were unplanned and the last two were planned. The change to the third was the hardest, two are ‘easy’ but three brings out challenges at times. Consider the age of your children. Things like buggy, nappies, car, housing, rooms, beds all  these things change and need to be considered.

Also what is your motivation and reason you feel you need to add more children to your life and this world?

As much as we parents love our children, parenting is equally challenging and difficult especially in today’s society.

Looking back I’d have wished to be in better circumstances and have less children.

I believe that few children are much easier, cheaper and you can focus more on them. Lastly it’s up to your wife, as she will bera and deliver any new child and naturally do most of the work relating.

To be honest, no one can chose for you but outweigh the pro and cons and pray over it.

What ever all the best to you and your family!

Hello Claudia,

I just want you know that it’s absolutely worth waiting for the right man. I can understand that you too want what everyones “seems” to have but this is just an ilusion. I have been there as young girl too, when everyone had a bf and no one was interested in me. I know it can get to us and make you feel down. But the truth is mostly that there is wisdom behind what happens to us. Remember you and your body are very special, honour and respect it as such and don’t give it away cheaply. Wait, be patient and you will find a good husband/partner sooner or later 🙂 Maybe you need to be more active in social ways like hobbies, sport, art or wahtever it is you enjoy doing. Trust me, when you meet your man, you will be gratful that you waited for him. All the best

Ann

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