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SteveParticipant
Hi Anna
im sorry to say this but my view is that he no longer wishes to be in a relationship with you. He may have his own issues with depression and needing to find himself but I personally don’t believe these are the main cause for ending the relationship.
i say this from s position of experience. I too finished a long term live in relationship whilst having the same type of issues. I say with regret that I used these issues to explain my actions when it was a case that I no longer wanted to be in the relationship but I didn’t have the emotion awareness (or guts) to actually say it.
please realise that you need to detach from his perceived reasons for ending things and gather your own thoughts for helping yourself through this. It will be hard but will be a lot easier if you don’t try to second guess what he is feeling
SteveParticipantHi wildoceanflower
theres little I can add to the words of Anita however maybe I can provide a male orientated perspective to some of your thoughts.
Your ex is carrying his own emotional hang ups which prevents him from total open commitment Whatever the reason it’s his issue and you are unable to help as your presence enables him to continue in his actions
I say this as somebody who has suppressed any emotion that made me feel vulnerable my whole life (also 50 by the way). Whilst I didn’t mistreat my ex’s I can look back and say I wish I had been more trusting to accept I could be loved.
I’m also single and would love to have that special someone to share with. The thing is I don’t currently have love for myself, I’m not happy within myself which isn’t something that is appealing to be around .
As easy as it sounds is as difficult as it is to achieve is don’t hide from the feelings. If you can be happy with yourself for no purpose other than self love….you will never feel alone
sorry for rambling … Keep Smiling 🙂
SteveParticipantAll I can say to every bodies comments in here is Wow!!
i will need to return and read this again. I’m a male and although I haven’t got the past relationship situation I totally relate to what’s been written about head over heart.
I wont hijack this thread but it has possibly given me the confidence to start my own. Some wise advice is obviously available
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