Dear anita

Yes, it is hard to explain but she would text me in a passive agressive way and its just the way she used to answer me. She also implied something about where I come from. And when I once said that I could not help her with something she posted things on facebook, like “everything I do and people are ungrateful” or “people forget what you do for them” it was things along those lines as if I was ungrateful an injured her by saying no. If I posted in the group she would just single me out and pick at everything I said or criticize.

I felt alone because no one in the group saw what she was doing, I actually thought I was being paranoid. She would call me in front of others then discard me and tell everyone how ill I was and that she felt sorry for me. I felt and was alone, no one in the friendship approached me and we were good friends. Especially with the person that I confided in.

Does that make sense it can be hard to explain sometimes.

ana

Hi Anita

Thanks for your reply, I guess I can be too hard on myself sometimes. I have been through so much and have tried to ignore her treatment of me. Provoking me then huging me in front of friends, it´s as if she wanted me to get angry. Lying and discarding me after she had used me. Playing victim not respecting my no´s and foolishly thinking she was sorry just so that she could pull me back in and throw me out again. Calling me only when she wanted something. I guess it shows that I should have set more boundaries.

I thought I was doing well and had put this all behind me but the recent confession to a friend has made me realize what I tolerated. Yes it is hard when no one else sees it, I am usually a very level headed strong person and feel foolish that someone affected me this way. You made a good point that it is my job to protect my health emotionally and otherwise. I tend to think that I should avoid arguements because I am not the type. But that backfired on me I guess.

Thankyou again