Such a coincidence that I read your post today, I have been feeling hopeless and over thinking so hard about my 11 year relationship with my husband.

I do not know if I am right or wrong but surely this relationship has only got worse in years, I feel extremely lonely in USA  with no other family around as I am from Asia, living with my husband who shows no emotional or physical needs, shows care only rarely when he wants and does not have a real life himself other than work and spending time with my only daughter.

I rely on him to share my life, motions, responsibilities of my daughter and few household chores. I do take charge and am capable of doing most of it. I am young, intelligent and full of life, but I feel like a fool when it comes to relations.I realized I do love him but I am left feeling lonely most of the time, months without any intimacy and days without any real conversation. I engage myself in the job and various activities. It only helps for some time but I miss having a bond and healthy married life with him.I feel incomplete.

I have tried to talk every way possible, but he does not get it. He easily asks me to look for it outside or leave.

I am so confused with this toxic relationship. I continue to live this way since I know no other way to live on my own. I think realizing you’re in such toxic relationships is the hardest part and letting go of it feels unreal. I do not want to make a bad decision. I know, what I am looking for in a relationship cannot be fulfilled by my husband.

Now I have to gather the courage to distance him from my life, I fear to be lonely for all my life even more than I am facing right now.

What advise would you give some one to make this decision?