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  • May 1, 2016 at 3:24 am #103225
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    You have the have the mindset to change. You have to tell yourself you want to be better and I’ll agree it isn’t a walk a long a park but it is possible. Just note that you can do whatever you tell your mind to do. Change starts from within and it’s not an easy process everything comes from observation.

    Observe yourself when you react,
    tell yourself what you can do differently the next time you react to something or get angry.

    and work on it from there and change it for the better.

    February 10, 2016 at 9:34 am #95676
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    The beauty in all this is what you could do for the person you love never forget this attribute of yours. And what she believes isn’t your problem you leave that to her to figure out.

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    February 10, 2016 at 9:29 am #95675
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    @lonely88 The small things we do for someone are the greatest. You said you didn’t love this girl enough and you took her for granted etc etc. That is not true don’t put stories in your mind you did everything you possibly can for this person you gave her your attention, love, time and most importantly your heart. You invested yourself in her and even gave her everything you worked for(the furnished apartment etc). You said you’re at a low point in your life it’s time you change this. You work on yourself and make the best version of yourself get back on your feet. Believe in yourself, you’re greater than you think you. Just cut connection with this person and do yourself. Make yourself desirable and make yourself great. You can do whatever you set your mind too.

    February 10, 2016 at 6:18 am #95664
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    @dreaminng715 thank you for taking the time to reply I feel what you said reflects on to me also.

    February 10, 2016 at 6:13 am #95663
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    @Lonely88 I understand and feel your pain inside out, I know what it is like to give yourself up to someone and they just throw you away like you don’t mean anything. I would also consider this a blessing for you because think about it in this way even imagine if you had kids with this person? Do you think it would still prevent her from breaking it up? Would you really want a wife that is dishonest and doesn’t know what she is doing with herself? Or even know who she is? From what I can see is that you’re a nice man and nature one day will reward you with someone that would respect you and thrive for your attention. Another thing I realized is that people are sometimes too busy picking up stones one day they’ll wake up and realize that they’ve lost a diamond. You honestly did the best you can for this girl, you gave her everything but she is was too blind to see what you could do for her. What I suggest you do is work on yourself put this wonderful energy in you and become the best version of yourself. I have a few suggestions I would say engage in disciplined physical activities martial arts, or get yourself a gym coach and start killing your body in way you thought was never possible. Feel good about yourself because you’re a wonderful person so do what is best for you now and not for anyone else.

    February 9, 2016 at 8:18 pm #95642
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    Honestly I felt that this man wasn’t worth the trouble. A real man would never do that to a lady regardless of how busy he is or what his life may be like. I know from experience we keep in constant touch with the people we love and want in our lives. Even if we can’t see them often we find ways to communicate to show our interest and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this out. From the way you describe him it seems to me he is a little lost with what he wants. I feel that this person is battling with his heart and mind, usually you would want to avoid people like this because they are the ones who would walkout on you because they truly don’t know who they are or what they are doing half the time. I’ll say it’s an experience and it will definitely be a little hard to move forward but try to make a better version of yourself while in this process.

    Trust me and take my word for it you did nothing wrong in this by dating another man just keep your head up high and focus on you for now.
    Like the others said above you text him and tell him to pick his stuff up or you’re going to throw it away in the garbage.
    He was only hope that things get better, and when something doesn’t work out it’s because it wasn’t meant to be. Think about it do you see yourself with a man for the rest of your life that doesn’t care about you? Or has the slightest idea that he truly desires you?

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    February 9, 2016 at 1:58 pm #95601
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    Thank you Anita I truly value your feedback and I will take what you’ve told me into deep consideration.

    February 9, 2016 at 12:25 pm #95583
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    What got me angry was this person’s dishonesty. I’ve learned that it isn’t my problem anymore because this was a reflection of their character and personality not mine. I’m in fact very happy that things didn’t workout with this particular person because she would have just hid things from me and one day walkout because she wouldn’t be able to face herself with all the lies she would be hiding from me.

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    February 9, 2016 at 8:22 am #95429
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    The one thing that helped me the most was writing down my story. I was able to observe what truly got me angry deep inside and I realized it was nothing to do with the rejection. I guess when you write down your story from the point where it started going downhill you’ll discover something new.

    February 9, 2016 at 8:03 am #95424
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    I understand your pain and frustrations. I do in fact believe everything happens for a reason; I’ve learned so much already: about myself, what I have to offer, to value myself and understand that people might not always appreciate you but that doesn’t mean someone else out there wouldn’t. Today I understand that every person on this planet is unique in their own way and that no one can imitate the way we love because this is a distinct characteristic each and every one of us holds. This person that came into my life after my ex and I broke up was only hope that things do get better.

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