Hi Elle,

I know there is a slim chance you will see this, but I wanted to try regardless. I am also a senior in college about four months out of a breakup I initiated. A few months ago I had a few large decisions to make all at once and broke up with my boyfriend in what, in hindsight, feels like a rash state of overwhelm. I’ve felt deep, deep sadness and what feels like regret from the very start, but I often can’t tell if it’s regret or grief. I am in a position where I could reach out for an attempt to reconcile, and spend hours a day wondering if I made the right choice. I think my urge to break up with him was the result of the buildup of a hundred small miscommunications, like a straw that broke the camel’s back. But he was a great partner to me, and my best friend. I guess my main question is: how did you trust yourself? I devote endless time to mulling over what I could have done better, if we’d have turned a corner if I had stayed. And how are you now?

Best,

Astrid