Hi all,

Thank you for your comments. To clarify, I am from an Asian family, and my parents have very traditional values. They do not approve of my boyfriend’s race, and the argument doesn’t really help things.

The argument in question happened nearly a year and a half ago. It involved me lashing out at my boyfriend while I was in a really rough patch. I said a lot of things I’m not proud of. We eventually made up, but the next day, while I was looking at something on my boyfriend’s phone, a text message notification came up. It turned out he had been venting to his friend, and his friend had called me baepolar as a joke. At the time, it really hurt me that my boyfriend was venting to his friend. Looking back now, I understand why he did that. We all vent to people. I’ve talked to people about my boyfriend when he bugs me sometimes. It happens. I’m more frustrated about that fact that they’re still so fixated on that even though it happened so long ago. Really, they only care about the fact that my boyfriend didn’t stick up for me when his friend called me that name. For my boyfriend and me, we’re way past that incident. We’ve both grown and changed.