Hi Anne
I dont have any answers, but I also have a deep seated need to be included. I hate to be left out.
There are unrealistic times that I am not invited join a 4 ball playing golf, that i feel devastated but I really dont even want to play golf!
As I say, no answers except to say that I think its an intrinsic need to belong, to feel loved and needed.
Perhaps we need to be more honest with ourselves about what we DONT want to do, and accept that, than worry about the others that are partaking.