I resonate with this thread/original post SO much. Similar childhood issues, partner has been traveling for the last 2-3 years I’ve known him. Curious how it all turned out for you.

I’m in a similar situation now, we were together living together total 4 years, I broke it off in the spring due to a SLEW of issues mostly caused by him traveling so much, so sporadically, and for so long. (last year the worst was we just moved into a new apartment, he was gone for 2 weeks, home a week, gone another 4 weeks, then gone from August to December.. missing my birthday etc.)

The connection, our foundation suffered. We’ve reconnected in the last few months but its going slowly and he will be gone again for a month at a time. I feel myself resisting and bringing up old patterns. at the end of the day it feels unfair that someone would choose to be gone from their partner for so long without any type of reconsidering their job.

Not sure if anyone has insight on how to tackle this. Maybe we’re just too different in this way. I’m already feeling anxious feelings come up at the idea of him leaving again and this time we aren’t even “officially” together again. We’re living separate now. Maybe its just done.