Yoda428:

Facebook has a way of making everyone’s life seem so happy and perfect doesn’t it? The other day I was at a restaurant and I watched a mother with her daughters scrolling through social media at the table. Everyone had their face down looking at their phones. No one was talking to each other or laughing. They looked up briefly to take a group picture ( full of smiles and togetherness). Once the picture was taken it was back to the phones – probably to post the picture of their great fun time at dinner. I’m sure everyone who saw the post saw a family having a fun time at dinner. What I saw was a family isolated from each other – trying so hard to capture every moment of the day on FB or whatever social media they were using. They were completely missing the time they were spending together ! My point to you is this- just because your ex was all smiles and seemingly moved on with her life does not mean she does not struggle with the divorce. You are not seeing the whole picture on Facebook.

I am in a similar situation. I wanted the divorce and I got it. I think about my ex-husband and our marriage every day. Some days I feel sad, others days angry it has been a very difficult three years. I suspect my ex thinks that I have moved on and just go on about my life completely erasing our past but that is not the case. I am trying to work through all these difficult emotions ( as I hope you are). I am trying to understand why our relationship did not work hoping I can learn more about myself and what I need from the next relationship. But it is a struggle. My suggestion to you is that if you want peace, stop focusing on her and focus on you. It takes time but with time it will hurt a little less especially if you make peace with yourself.