My view on forgiveness:

The thing about forgiveness is that it’s really about us and not them. whether or not they are aware you’ve forgiven them is not as important as the act of forgiving is to us.
If they know you’ve forgiven them and accept that, well it’s just a bonus.
Forgiveness does NOT mean you are okay with what happened.
Forgiveness does NOT mean you will allow it to happen again.
Forgiveness DOES mean you will no longer allow what happened to affect you physically, mentally and spiritually.
Forgiveness takes back the power that resentments and hate and anger drain from our being.
Forgiveness can be given in person, in private (without them knowing) or even to someone whom is deceased.
We are allowed to forgive ourselves as well!