Hi, Inky,
Thank you. I’ve been to an Alanon meeting but stopped. I think I need to start back. It’s sad to me given how close we were and how much our relationship has devolved. But I am not going to be abused over and over by someone. I never thought about the blackmail…

Thank you so much, Anita. I think I need to start grieving the person who she was, the person I was so close with. That person is gone, and I need to understand that. And you’re right, doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome is a waste of energy. I feel bad about my nephew, but I also think that if it meant that much to my sister for her son to have family relationships, then she would behave in a way that would allow this to happen.