I don’t think that would be a very mature way to handle the situation. I respect him as a person and would never just stop speaking to him out of nowhere. He would never do that to me. He said he needs a lot of time to heal and that we should see where we are at after a year. I don’t think that sounds like someone who is ready to give up just yet. I’m just trying to navigate what the right choice is. 

I understand where u guys are coming from but the relationship is a little more complex than that. He has not always been this way up until we have had some terrible fights. He was scared to lose me and wanted to get a place together after the summer. However, the fighting took a toll on him and has pushed him to rightfully reconsider. It is a tough position to be in because I think he is right to want to take things slow after the fights we have had but I am wanting to get back to that deeper comitment that we once had. I am also his first serious gf which makes me nervous. He also has told me that if he wanted things to end he would have ended it after the first fight. The situation is not black and white and I think when ppl hear it without knowing the two people involved they always resort to the solution of breaking up. Maybe that is the right choice but I have yet to leave the situation alone and just let things play out so I do not know if now is the right time to let go. I have kept brining up that I am unhappy with how things are and he always sYs that it’s not the time and place to keep having that conversation bc we need to give it time. I just can’t help but feel like I may be wasting time on someone who is confused on what they want. It seemed very clear before all of this happened but now things are Rocky. I asked him if it was rly just the fighting that was making him want to take things slow or if he didn’t see me as being the one for him. He said it was listing the fighting… and he didn’t understand why all of this meant that he didn’t want a future with me. It is very confusing.