So…make a long story short as possible. I have been on and off again with this guy for about 14 months. I fell fast and hard as he was different than any man I had ever been with. VERY charming (but a liar like a sociopath). I have met his family, I spent Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years with him and his family. I met his kids. Etc. He has told me that he loved me and cared about me many time. He told me that he could see himself spending the rest of his life with me. We talked about and looked for houses together. I THOUGHT he really loved me. I never caught him cheating but did have my suspicions. I did act a little crazy (popping up on him when he wouldn’t answer the phone etc). Because he made me feel so insecure in the relationship. We would “discuss it” (never really fight) and go on with the relationship. He would “ghost” me a lot. Go 12, 16, 24 hours or longer with no contact which he KNEW bothered me. I would forgive him and he would “be good” for awhile. So finally I broke it off, we didn’t see each other for about 10 weeks but still communicated. We ended up “getting back to together” I GUESS (no title this time) and then he did it again. Ghosted me for a whole weekend. I was PISSED!! I didn’t freak out but I said he needed to call me asap and he NEVER did. He just texted me like everything was normal (which was our normal routine). This time again I ignored it. Its been 7 days with no contact. I WANT and KNOW I need to move on but I feel like I need CLOSURE. A final goodbye, it’s over for good or SOMETHING. I am not even actually looking for an explanation because I feel like if he REALLY loved me he wouldn’t be able to just let me walk away. I believe he is damaged and doesn’t know how to love REALLY. BUT I still feel the need for the last goodbye. Although I love him and would LOVE to work it out (even though I shouldn’t) I KNOW I need to let go and move on. I am not even sure if the closure on my end would make me feel any better. He usually apologizes and we move on but nothing really changes. GOD help me this is so painful. I know I probably sound crazy but it helps to vent. Most of my friends just say F*&k him and move on. I wish it was that easy. ANY advice from anyone here in a similar situation? If I did do a LAST contact to say goodbye should it be a phone call (voicemail) or letter? PLEASE HELP!!

I could have written this myself. I hate to know that others have and are feeling the pain that I felt/feel. But selfishly I am happy as well to know that there is nothing wrong with me (per se) that I am not the only one. I dated a man off and on over the last 14 months who I FELT I loved and loved me but he took me the worst emotional roller coaster of my life through the entire thing. Burning hot and then Ice Cold….off and on… over and over. It’s been one week since I have heard from him. I am TRYING to move on with my life as I know this “relationship” is not healthy. I have been doing good with my not attempting to reach out and I have deleted him from my phone but I have this overwhelming need for closure. I am almost scared that I will never hear from him again and I will never be able to express to him how much he has hurt me. At this point I don’t even know that he cares if he did?! I am trusting in GOD that he will see me through this. Some days the pain is crippling because I thought this would be the man I would spend the rest of my life with. I don’t know what the future holds for he and I. If we will ever speak again and if I can ever even be his friend or if I should even want to. I am an good person with a huge heart. I never did anything to hurt him and I can’t wrap my brain around why he continually hurt me seemingly without any real remorse. I refuse to be a gluten for punishment and keep breaking my own heart. Please pray for me that I will stay strong and hold out for the love that I deserve. Thank and GOD bless you all who are hurting as well.