Dear Anita,

I am so grateful for your time and help with my current situation. Yesterday, I felt the heaviness on my shoulders become lighter. Sharing your experience with your mother helps me a lot. Many thanks!

1. My manager also talks with excitement as you described. It irritates me, and I don’t understand why. She reduces my productivity and motivation. She talks excessively about another employee whom she adores. She tries to micromanage me but leaves me alone when I have a heavy workload. She also attempts to transfer many responsibilities to me, which is unfortunately common pattern in my life. Wherever I am, people sense that I’m responsible and overload me with tasks.
2. She brings me gifts, but it makes me uncomfortable. I sense a kind of fake energy. Because I feel this way about her kind gestures, I sometimes think that I’m the problem, not her.
3. She frequently complains about others and shares every single detail about them. Then she says she’s tired of everything.
4. I will try to reduce my side projects with her, but it might take some time. Because she’s so clingy, I find it difficult to stop everything at once. I’m afraid that if I end things suddenly, she’ll be angry and give bad recommendations. But life is too short to tolerate all of this, so I will stand up for myself.

Thank you!

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