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  • June 13, 2019 at 10:23 am in reply to: Recurring feelings of guilt after break-up and getting together again #298943
    Coalfox
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    Yes, I did. Most of them I don’t do anymore. Yet it feels sort of strange to quit doing these things, as when i talk with friends they have absolutely no problem doing these things. However, maybe I should just accept that these things don’t work out for me while in a relationship

    June 13, 2019 at 9:57 am in reply to: Recurring feelings of guilt after break-up and getting together again #298929
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    Usually they have to do with my sexuality I geel guilty/ashamed about. For example these are some things I fretted about:

    – feeling bad about watching regular porn

    – feeling guilty because I played an erotic video game

    – feeling bad about for one time having paid for an erotic visual novel

    I think this started because the incident with the webcam porn resulted in upsetting and hurting my girlfriend as a result of my sexual actions. Since then, I worry about my behaviour and I question how my girlfriend would react. Therefore I sometimes have this feeling I need to confess as I am afraid these things might be wrong in her eyes. I think hurting her is the thing I am most afraid for.

    June 13, 2019 at 8:46 am in reply to: Recurring feelings of guilt after break-up and getting together again #298893
    Coalfox
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    Hi Anita,

     

    Yes, I quit that behaviour as soon as I saw my wrongdoing. Never have any intend of doing it again and I regret is so much. Regarding your other question: my girlfriend of course likes me to be open with things I struggle with. However, as this can be a sensitive subject for us, it is sometimes hard. One time she said she couldn’t help me with some things I struggle with as it was too hard for her and would make her feel insecure. Also, some of the things that I feel I have to confess other people might not want to confess or feel that they have to. I think I feel ‘over guilty’ about some aspects of me and I am afraid I’ll hurt my girlfriend.

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