Hi Anita,

Some details

I initiated some time off from each other as there were some friction between us during that period. It was due to I felt I was unfairly treated in-comparison to the other co-workers. One of the main cause was a co-worker which was very obviously chasing her, she rather take his ride back home than rather letting him know I was waiting for her. She even gave him the benefit of the doubt (which later she realised that I was right).

After thinking things through during the time off, I felt that maybe it was unfair to her, as she might have felt peer-pressured to fit into the new department and didn’t want to offend anyone. So I decided to apologize to her and end the time off. She then texted me that during the time-off she thought things through and felt that she wanted her life to be simple and decided that we should just be normal friends. It was then I did some of the crazy ex stuff trying to get her out to explain and talk things though.

It was then I realized that by doing all this stuff, it actually pushed her away further. That’s why I stopped and apologize to stop any further damage, and did no contact hopefully to let time remove some of the bad memories. But it seems like the damage has been done, cause nowadays the texting routine would be “I shares something / asked her something => she replies with a 1-liner => I tried to be friendly and continue the conversation => she reads it 2 days later without a reply”

I feel that maybe I’ve done my part in trying to remove the awkwardness and that it’s time to for me to let the both of us go. Because I’ve finally understood that it takes two hands to clap, esp in relationships. I honestly don’t want to give up, as I feel that it’s not easy to find someone that I could connect with so easily since day 1. but I should start loving myself more and stop trying so hard for pple who don’t even respect the other party.

And thanks Inky for the reply!

• This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by Kenneth.
• This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by Kenneth.