Whenever someone uses the words “he never” (or not ever) we are dealing with a exaggeration.  It’s also a well known gaslight ing technique.  Turning your phone off in retaliation is manipulative emotional abuse.  Did your parents ever withold love because you did not meet their expectations?  Sounds like you are healing from narisstic parental mistreatment and are having issues because you are imitating those old abusive behaviors you inherited your in romantic relationship.  It’s not abandonment trauma that you are displaying, although that story does give you an upper hand as a victim.