Dear Anita,

I know that I could meet someone here but I honestly don’t care whether its here or in another state cause I rarely get my feelings reciprocated anyway. I’m not going to try to pursue him because I know it’s a risky situation. I guess I want to know whether it’s worth asking how he felt after breaking up or his perspective on things. Obviously, that could go south and my heart may be broken but maybe it would be easier to completely move on. I’ve been trying to move on but it’s so difficult sometimes. I’ve been going out with friends and meeting new ones, I even went out of my way to text a guy that I used to talk to last year. But I just can’t help my feelings right now. :/

Dear Anita,

Sorry haha. The reason I broke up with him is I felt like he was losing interest in me and my best friend told me to dump him. She told me to cause he couldnt buy me a gift for christmas… This is where it gets tricky, I got him a gift and I thought he just wasn’t appreciating it cause I wanted to send it to him but every time I get to asking for his address he would kind of avoid it. When I finally confronted him about it, he told me its cause he feels bad for not having anything to give me so he doesnt want me to get him a gift. But idk my friend kept telling me other things, and that he doesnt have a job and stuff. But it was only a few months before december since he left his job. The other reason I decided to break up with him is cause I felt like he wasn’t ambitious enough and I like to have deep conversations with people. But that feels silly too cause I have had a few deep conversations with him when I pry him. Other than all that, we were very happy and I felt like our relationship was going great. We were together for about 5 months. He’s 21 and I’m 19