Hello Jess and Lonely Viking:

I just joined this forum specifically to ask you two a couple things.  I’ve been recently dumped by a great love due to his anxiety (which was never discussed with me and came out in an explosive crazy week in Cuba.)  Long story but you can imagine.  He was constantly triggered and I didn’t have a clue who I was with for the entire trip and was quite scary.  He came clean once we returned home about what he’s suffered with since he was 20.  He is now 59.    Through a ton of research I can understand, though shattered how I never had a chance due to the lack of communication on his condition.  Unfortunately it’s hard for me to heal for we had fallen deeply in love prior and had a wonderful connection.  A rare thing indeed as you know (especially at our age!)  I care deeply for this man!  Looking back I can see the small little things in his behavior that were due to anxiety, but I HAD NO IDEA the severity of the condition and how it can turn extremely dark.    Now I am pushed away, and I feel like my hands are tied.

Jess… how are you now doing now with the time that has passed?

Lonely Viking…  glad you are self aware and are able to share your experiences.  Have you improved your skills to cope better with the demons?  Do you feel like you are capable of having a relationship?  Does the anxiety overbear the possibility of letting love in?

Thank you for your time and I hope to hear back!  🙂

Dana