Oh baby girl….you just wrote what I am exactly going thru as well. Thankfully, I am at the tail end of my situation and I discovered what the real deal is 3 months into the relationship. When I tell you my situation is exactly the same, word for word, I am not kidding. Thankfully, my guy was honest and told me he will never commit to anything serious. He is too damaged from a previous relationship. I could not understand why he refused to share his feelings with me or do all the things that “couples” do. I internalized it as something was wrong with me and felt like I had a REJECTED stamp across my forehead. I am still in tremendous pain but have completely accepted that this has nothing to do with me, ALL HIS ISSUES. Sweetheart, your situation is the same. WALK AWAY FOR YOUR HAPPINESS! You deserve the very best and you are not getting it. Good luck xoxo