Hi anita,
yes, i asked him if he saw a future with us after a month. he said that he wasn’t sure, but that he likes and cares for me a lot. he said he wasn’t sure if he was mentally ready because of his life circumstances. so, i was pretty upset and was almost on the verge of tears—i didn’t kiss him goodbye. i also told him that he’s basically wasting my time. i just reacted childishly instead of being more understanding and taking what he said at face value. i have since kind of forgiven myself for that, but not fully.
here’s the thing, though: he told me a couple weeks prior that he wanted a relationship and would say relationshipy things a lot. but then he’d tell me he’s scared. in retrospect, he was was telling me ultimately that he just wasn’t ready and clearly he didn’t know what he really wanted, but i had my rose-colored glasses on. also, i think we moved really fast. regardless, i want to get over him.