wow thank you – that is good advice – especially related to “but it’s better to hit the problem head on and accept it’s over rather than refuse to accept something obvious and let the assumptions and expectations continue to eat away at you over a much longer period.” That really hit the nail on the head!!
i will try even though it is going to be hard to stop something which I am kidding myself is good

thank you

Oof I am in a similar situation and I am tired of this hollow ache in my stomach and the “suspicious cloud” hanging over my head.
I want to stop the relationship – but cannot find it in me to do it – how long can this self torture continue – and why cant I see sense – im not a child – im a grown intelligent woman – but in this case i feel like everything is out of control
help