Hi Ashley. I agree with Ashley; and a couple of things come to my mind about your situation. First, it isn’t really that helpful to compare ourselves with other people and try to decide who’s ‘better’ than who. That just turns the relationship into a competition, which it shouldn’t and needn’t be. Second, we can’t do anything about other people’s manners. We hope they will treat us with acceptance and respect, but if they don’t, we can’t make them. However, we are responsible for our own behaviour and if we think it’s right to treat people courteously then we should make an effort to do that – not only if they behave well to us, and certainly not to prove that we’re ‘better’, but just because we believe it’s right to do that.
I hope your partner’s family will respect you as his partner and will treat you well; but in any case, if you behave towards them with respect and courtesy, you will be doing good in the world and acting with compassion.
Good luck!