Hello David,

I read your post and it sounded exactly word for word what I’ve been going through with my ex. We dated off and on for three years and she too would always leave me for another guy. Even though the relationship was unhealthy, I have this intense urge to keep wanting her back. I think of my ex every single day, every night, that she’s out with another guy. We broke up 8 months ago, no contact, and it’s still driving me crazy. I think about all the new guys she’s sleeping with, that that should be me with her. It sucks because she can leave me and get over it the very next day and be with someone new and take me back when things don’t work out. She gives me lots of attention for the first two days or so and then she goes back to her heartless self. She is totally emotionally unavailable. Doesn’t pay any attention to me whatsoever, always on her phone, not living in the moment with me. One time, I lost a best friend and cried about it for a while, she would just look at me and leave the room. There was no concern for me whatsoever. I think she might be somewhat narcissistic. But I feel like there’s an intense chemistry between her and I, not only because of all the back and forth, but the intense arguments/fights that we’d have. She’s an amazing girl, but she’s got a lot of issues that I tried to help her out with without any improvement. Can’t help someone who denies having any flaws. I tried to show her that there’s love out there. I too didn’t have any emotional bond with my parents, so maybe we’re just chasing what we’re used to: not being loved. I feel like there’s no end to this… Has anything improved since your break up with her?