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  • January 2, 2026 at 2:17 am in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453732
    Elena
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    haha, thank you for the laugh Thomas! Reminds me of the scarecrow from the wizard of oz, but he’s happy to have no brains!

    Maybe I do expect too much of them, that they would be interested in my life abroad. But they are getting older and maybe their brains are changing and they no longer see me in their lives or future, so maybe it’s easier for them, too, to just move on.

    My life where I am is less than ideal, so it’s probably compounding my dependence or expectations of connection with old friends and family. I guess I just have to get a life!

    January 2, 2026 at 2:11 am in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453731
    Elena
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    Hi Anita, Thank you for responding.

    Yes, they have favored him since I was a child. Though for most of his adult life he’s been so selfish and rude that for much of that time they’ve spent complaining about him to me. But they never shared their thoughts with him probably for fear of him alienating them. Now that he has a new life, I believe he’s staying in contact with them more, being more open. Perhaps he’s happier and that’s the reason. But I also suspect that he’s trying to stay in their good favor because of how awful his actions were.

    I guess what I’ve been questioning for the past year is when and how to go about moving on from people who don’t seem to want to stay in touch. Do I simply stop reaching out? Make it intentional? Or try to just not think about it and focus on trying to start a new life on my own. I guess for me, that would mean telling myself daily that I’m on my own now, so that I stop fretting about trying to find a solution.

    lol on your autocorrects 🙂

    January 2, 2026 at 2:03 am in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453730
    Elena
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    Thank you Roberta for your kind and compassionate words and suggestions for finding a community abroad.

    I’ve never thought of finding an intentional community abroad because I’ve been focused on work and trying to just observe and learn as much as I can where I’m living now. I guess I haven’t made much attempts to find a community where I am, maybe because I’ve also been distracted by trying to connect with my old friends and family.

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