I agree with the no contact. My husband gets mad and yells at me when I say I don’t want my kids around her, they are also old enough to make that decision and they don’t want to. When I say I don’t want to be around her, he says then I’m not going to your families house (who didn’t do anything) My kids are both now in counseling to help with all the trauma this has all caused.
I am the one taking them and are there for them when they need to talk, he has never talked to them or explained to them that this is not normal behavior that they shouldn’t have to be around.
I have suggested counseling for us to begin to get past this, but he seems to think its not an issue. He says its my fault that its being made into an issue. I just don’t know what to do.
I have put myself on the back burner so that he could work whatever hours he had to with whatever job he has had. I have always worked around my kids school schedules. I don’t currently have a regular full time job. Leaving is harder than staying due to us also owning a DJ business that he is the DJ of. I run the office and Photo booth part. He threatens not to go to jobs and leave brides DJ-less if I say anything he doesn’t like. I feel like I’m walking on egg shells to keep my kids from hearing the fighting.
This past Friday night she text me accusing me of driving drunk w my kids a week prior, when we went to dinner with family for my sons b day. I had one small margarita, drank all water, and ate a full plate of food, we were there over 2 hours. She wasn’t invited by my husbands brother and sister were both invited and there. His sister is the one who told her that I was driving drunk with my children. She also t3ext me to go hurt myself.
I just feel like I don’t matter to my husband at all anymore. He will stick up for them even when they are in the wrong.

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