Bonni_mor I’m going to give you an entirely different perspective. My former BF did the same thing to me. I was 2 weeks from finishing med school and he walked out. He barely said anything and then ghosted me, no contact for almost 4 years. I met a guy during residency and we became engaged and BAM this guy emails me. I was taken aback but I ignored him. After several attempts not getting me he contacted my family and some friends. I emailed him and told him I had moved on and was engaged. He kept trying to see me for about 8 months until he showed up at the hospital where I was working. I sat down with him for awhile. He wasn’t trying to get back together with me or interfere with my life. He was trying to make amends before he died. He had been diagnosed with a very aggressive form of brain cancer. He was sorry for what happened between us and I think he wanted to clear his conscious before he passed.

I am not saying this could be happening to you, but I thought he just hadn’t moved on and that was not the case. God works in mysterious ways (maybe you believe maybe you don’t, but that’s not the point here) and I was glad I sat down with him. I am glad I got to see him and talk to him and let him clear his mind.

Also, I am not sure you fully grasped what CBD was saying though. I don’t think CBD diagnosed at all. I’m not sure (s)he said that indifference is the cookie cutter emotion, but I can attest to when you get to indifference it is truly freeing. It doesn’t absolve you from care or compassion but it is incredible freedom. (S)he even said being more forceful and direct might be the way to go and in no way did (s)he say to be hateful or insensitive. And like in my situation you dont know for sure where he he has moved on or not…he very well may have and there is something else going on in his life.

i married and now have 3 children with the man I met during residency. Life has a way of working out. I hope all works out for you!

Gabie