There are very practical considerations that I don’t think have been discussed here such as:

1. Make yourself available – how often do you get out of your house? Are you getting out there several times a week, socially?

2. Vary your routine – if you go to work and do the same things in the same way every time, your opportunities for meeting another will be severely limited. If you go to the same restaurant for lunch every day, try another restaurant. If you take the same train to work at the same time every work day, take the train that leaves 30 minutes earlier.

3. Approach/Initiate Conversation – it’s very easy for a woman to feel that “it just happens”. Why? Because it’s the man who is expected to approach. Men must be the initiators. We cannot expect to be approached. This means having the courage to strike up a conversation when it is uncomfortable to do so. This means stepping out of your comfort zone regularly. If you see someone you like, TALK TO HER.

My parents have been married for 45 years. How did they meet? In a dance club in New York City. My mother loves to dance. She was not going to go out that night either. But her friends told her that she should go anyway and she listened to their advice. She was on the dance floor, *having a great time* and my father saw her. He approached her. And the rest is history. Both of my parents made themselves available that night. My mother left her house even though she didn’t feel like it. My father approached a woman who at the time was a complete stranger. He seized the moment.

4. Do the things you love and are already passionate about

5. Try new things in your life – If you go out for Japanese food every day, perhaps you can try Vietnamese? If you play soccer, maybe try baseball.

6. Find others to go out with who can accompany you.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 12 months ago by garrino.
• This reply was modified 7 years, 12 months ago by garrino.