Thanks Eliana,

I have already talked to her and supported her at the time when she was undergoing the process and now that things have settled down I feel like talking still is effecting my mental well being, though I want to talk to her maybe because of the attachment ,whenever i talk to her i feel like whats the point when we are not going to be together. I guess I just need to be strong and stop talking to her and as you said put myself first.

Hi Anita:

You are right its a combination of both.In the first place I feel like abortion itself is a wrong doing as she had to suffer both physically and mentally and a life was included in this which was aborted.  Also I feel that even after that if we would have been together it wouldn’t have been so bad, but now the thought of being with someone else seems very wrong to me.

Thanks for the replies Anita, Lisa and Buddi. I am doing a lot of things to keep myself occupied, I am into fitness so that helps a lot. But guys please comment on the other key part here, that is the abortion. I have a lot of guilt for that and feel that its morally very wrong if we separate after that. I could’ve gone ahead and had the baby I have a good job and age wise also the time was not all improper. But knowing that she was pregnant she immediately at the same moment decided tthat she doesn’t want the baby.  I supported her in that as well but now whenever this comes up she says we have commited sin by doing this. I have already tried doing what is suggested, I wished her the best in life and decided that not talking anymore is the best thing to do. But when I think she wants to talk to me and is sad then I feel how can I be so horrible person and move forward. Please suggest how to overcome this guilt. 

Thanks Eliana for replying. I don’t understand then why she has to cry and appear sad just to make me feel bad even though I am not the one who asked for a break up. It’s true that if she really wanted it she would have never given up. Now that she asked for it then why not just own it and tell the real reason that she is not interested anymore and it was all convenience while it lasted.I could have easily run away on the first instance, my friends or whoever saw us together just told me you are far better than her, looks and nature wise but I never paid heed as I was so blindly in love.