Thank you!

I have realized that is exactly what I have been doing for a very long time!  I have felt manipulated.  But on ‘bad’ days, I second guess myself.

Thank you!

Roberta –  This is totally my decision to disconnect.  No fanfare, no drama, just done.  I am tired of chasing my children around ‘begging’ to be a part of their lives.  I have asked repeatedly for them to keep us informed of their activities so that we can plan and prepare to attend.  My son and his family is about 45 minutes away, and my daughter and family is 4 hours away.  Both have waited until the last minute to notify us, or not bothered at all.   I am tired of chasing them around trying to have a relationship with them.  It is a matter of self-respect and self esteem.

Brandy – He texted me saying that because of the cruise, they were changing the date.  I knew nothing about the cruise, and nothing was said about it at Thanksgiving.  All of the communication was by text.

I began a response to this citing examples and pleadings similar to the sorts of discussions I have had with both of my children, and I find myself once again feeling like a small child pleading to be heard in a room of chattering adults.  I realize that reveals more of my self image than I care to, but there it is.

I simply don’t think that anyone of my age should have to feel or be made to feel like they are less worthy of respect and consideration due any other adult human being.  I did the best that I could with what I had and knew at the time, and I raised my children and accepted responsibility for their existence,  Period.  For that, I believe that I am entitled to a fair amount of respect and consideration, and I am tired of being given anything less than that.