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DaveParticipantAnita,
That makes a lot of sense. I’ll definitely give what you said a shot. I’m sure I can be her friend which couldn’t hurt anything at this point.G
DaveParticipantAnita,
That sounds extremely difficult to do but you’re right, I have nothing to lose at this point.Thanks again,
GDaveParticipantHi Anita,
I told her I’d reach out again in a week or so and she mentioned needing another month of space. Our anniversary is Saturday, the 20th so I’ll probably shoot her a text. I gave her a list of therapists that our insurance covers but there was no discussion regarding me being a part of it. She was pretty adamant on getting her own therapy to figure out what’s going on in her own head. AT the same time, I don’t want to go unnoticed and become forgotten as she finds herself. I’ll definitely check in as a friend to see how her therapy is going.G
DaveParticipantI’ve definitely been trying to take better care of myself and started seeing a therapist a few weeks ago. I figure that I’ll at least be in good shape regardless of what happens
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DaveParticipantHi Anita,
I just met with my wife and we spent about an hour talking. She didn’t mentions divorce, but she said she still needs more time. She wants to see a therapist by herself before we try couples therapy. She said she is still confused and doesn’t know what she wants with her life. I talked to her a little bit about what I’ve been doing and everything ended ok. I told her I’d give her more time to work on herself but I still fear she’s going to leave meG
DaveParticipantOnce again, I really appreciate he advice. I’ll stay calm and post the results on Sunday.
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DaveParticipantYou’re right, it seemed to happen so fast that there might be another factor. Sure I’ll find out Sunday.
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GDaveParticipantI’m prepared for the divorce conversation as my gut is telling me that’s where it will go. I want to tell her that I don’t want a divorce and we should try counseling. I don’t want to throw away 10 years and my love for her. Over the past 3 weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about all I could have been doing to pay more attention to her and I truly understand why she’s feeling this way. I don’t want to promise change, I just want a shot at proving to her I can. If she truly doesn’t want kids I have no clue what I’ll say. I want kids but I always assumed they’d be with her. This has been completely crazy as it came out of the the blue one Sunday morning. Any advice if she does have her mindset on divorce?
DaveParticipantThanks again for the advice. She cancelled talking today that way we both don’t have to go to work after the conversation. Not sure if that’s good or bad, I guess I need to stop speculating. All I can do is hope she’s open to conversation or counseling and doesn’t have her mind set on divorce, We are now meeting on Sunday.
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DaveParticipantAnita- Thank you very much for the advice. It’s so helpful in times like this to get the “what not to do” advice as much as the “what to do.” I fear she wants a divorce and I’m not sure how to respond to that. I’ll definitely suggest counseling but won’t push anything on her. I truly appreciate the help
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DaveParticipantThank you for the kind words, Christian. I definitely think that couples therapy can help
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