No because hes non vegetarian and my family is pure veg. He wouldn’t have any problem convincing his parents. All the pressure was only on me. And never said this as a reason for the break or that I’d leave him for this reason

Thank you so much Anita.

Thank you Lori for tiny buddha.i followed this blog during my struggle. It has totally given me a different outlook to life.

Thank you for this platform

How long did you experience an ongoing good relationship with him before you took your break?
One year.

I decided to take a break. but we were in contact. Very much in contact. That was 4 months long. Then he moved on. I waited for 12 months after that.During the 9 th month (of the 12 months) he told me about his other relationship. He knew i was waiting for him yet he hid it from me and lied to me that he wasnt with anyone else. Then i decided to not talk but he wasnt ready to let go me at all. Every time i said i wanted to take care myself and not talk with him, he would have something to say and make me stay. For instance he was leaving the city for a job.

Why choose a man who is not good for you?

Because he is my best friend and only such a person can understand a spouse. He has stopped talking with her. For the past few months he is patient if i bring this topic up and talk about my anxiety. He said he’ll be there no matter what.

But, once when he had to be there, he wasnt . Pictures of him and the other woman keep coming to my mind.

I caught up between the past and the present. So i took some time off but im not able to decide

He would yell over the phone. I read about breakup online and went on no contact. I didnt want to talk so that I could recover. But he said i was being an extremist , either i want him as a boyfriend or i dont want anything at all. I didnt know to make him understand that i was human with feelings and emotions. He’d call me immature, ” not enough understanding” . So i thought i was wrong and kept making myself better and better. This was all at the time when he was committed. I treated him with so much empathy and compassion. He didnt return half of that. When Im so loving and caring for him yet he finds it not sufficient then where am i going wrong. Im patient with him even when he yells. But he didnt even want to help me when i was depressed.
This is what gave palpitations, leading numbness in left arm. I would cry a lot to myself.

Today he tells me he is ready to do whatever. But how do i forget all this ?

He was like that throughout. Even after he was with another woman but he had hid it from me.

I was going through depression and he was only closest friend I opened up to. But every time I called him to talk about what I was going through , he would not answer the calls or just cut it while I’m talking. I still remember I had an important exam and couldn’t focus on it, came out after it called him to meet just once because I couldn’t bear with the pain of separation and he told he had to go book resort the next day and didn’t even speak over phone. I have always been there for him when he was in misery but when I needed him the most , he just turned his back.

I tried to talk about it at least once in person but he constantly kept saying he has plans with his friends to go out with and they’re not as understanding as I am if he says no. He would I love you and take it back the other minute. I went to hospital when his father was admitted and he said few days later that I I cared only to have him back. I helped him clear job exams during this time without having any hatred towards him.

Later he broke up with her. But still was hanging out with her. I told him I didn’t like it because we were together. He said that it wasn’t fair to her. He was always seeing from her point of view. I asked him how is it fair to me to accept it.  And he would only keep saying it’s unfair to her. Their relationship wasn’t stable at all. He himself has agreed shes immature and she had only made his life worse. But once he said ” even of you hadn’t come in my life, she and I would have been committed” as if I had come in between.

This is just half of what I can remember