Hi Anita

I panick a lot but do love him.

That’s fine, I’ll expand. Having CBT as well

1. Love- immediately his name comes in to my mind. I’ve failed him and don’t want him to think I don’t love him because I do.

2. Hate- I hate myself for ruining everything I can never leave anything alone until I’ve ruined it. I hope he doesn’t hate me.

3. Guilt- I wish I’d never lied in the first place and now I’m trapped in that lie.

4. Change- I want to change my ways, I don’t like feeling like this. I want to change for myself and also show him i can because he thinks i can’t

5. Lost- I feel so lost in general. I feel lost because he was my safety net, always there and now everything is so blurry that I’m not sure if he’ll forgive me.

I’ve tried to be as detailed as possible

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Hi Anita

I’ve never really corrected them, always diverted them or pushed them to one side. So for example when my nan recently passed away I just diverted every thought I had and didn’t correct it.

I never really see it like that. Feel like I have a lot of love to give but my actions allow it to be misinterpreted. I do appreciate his efforts, they did work, which is where the crying comes in as I would never want him to think I didn’t appreciate it. Yes, all I can do now is leave him be as I can’t control someones thoughts or replies

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Harminder

Hi Anita

1. Correct- I hope I slowly begin to realise this and start control my emotions over this

2. Again I hope I realise this as well. I have no control over others feelings and need to keep on telling myself that. If I break out of the circle, I know I’ll feel happier and have more control over my thinking.

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Harminder

Hi Anita

Yeah my fear is their anger is hurting me. So because of me being scared about my friends anger yesterday, I’ve not really had anything to eat and I’ve stayed in bed, on Google looking up ways to make it right. Don’t really suffer from eating problems now, yes like to say I have the occasional day were I won’t eat until I know the person I’ve made angry is ok.

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Harminder

Hi Anita

Yeah you’re right, I know it won’t. I don’t know how to stop sometimes. The problem that is fuelling my current obsession is probably guilt, fear of loss, being misunderstood and love. So for example fear of anger is a big one right now hence the desperation  to get advice on my current situation.

Thanks!

Harminder

Hi Anita

Sorry me again!

I’ve gotten myself in a situation with my friend ( my online friend ). I basically followed his cousin by accident on a social media account, and before I could rectify my mistake, my friend found out and we got into a heated argument. I know it sounds like a small thing to do but he’s been getting really agitated with me for the past few months and this was just did it. He told me to leave him and his family alone- I would never wish them any harm and it was just a stupid mistake. I didn’t help myself by telling him it wasn’t me. I’ve never lied to him before but he was already so angry, I was trying to diffuse the situation. Not sure what to do now.

Any advice will be greatfull

I

Hi Anita

I totally understand where you are coming from. I should have said the two other girls we knew- one was just a beauty therapist that we both went to and the other was a girl that never really liked me (neither of us were friends with her). I never spoke about her to anyone…

The only other person involved was our mutual friend, who told me I should try reaching out to her again and also her boyfriend. It’s not usually something I should do but he was quite adamant I should explain myself and tell her the truth

Yeah its hard to accept sometimes as it’s really something over nothing.

Thanks

H