Hi Mark,
Thank you very much for your advice and understanding!  You are right about ‘sounds like you don’t know how your words are received’.  Thank you for giving words to how I feel but do not know how to describe it.  I like your ‘in the meantime’ advice.  I need to learn to quiet my mind by giving pause and be in my heart and then speak.  Thank you!
 Yes, I realized that rehashing past conversations can only leave me feeling worst, and I will always put in my own negative version of it.  I need to learn to let go.  Knowing that others support and understand my issues certainly helps.  I am glad that I posted my issue here and have received kindness, understanding and support from you and others.  Best wishes to you!
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