Hi E.E

After reading your post I want you to know you are not alone! I am also in this situation. I am 31 and also find it very hard to make new female friends at this time in life as everyone seems to have there friendship groups or partners and aren’t willing to accept anyone else.

I was bullied at school very early on and this continued to my teenage years so I haven’t kept any friends from school as I didn’t really have any to keep.

However I had a great time at college and met a couple of great friends. They are all settled down now and I barely see them. If I try to arrange something I have to give them 6 months notice and even then they sometimes cancel.

I was in a long term relationship which ended last year out of the blue I didn’t see it coming and I lost everything including his friends which had become my friends.

I have since then started again with my own house but I live in a town where I don’t know anyone. I changed my job last year in the hope I might make new friends but all of the people I work with are considerably older than me and they only work part time so most of the time i’m in an office alone so I haven’t been able to make new friends there.

I’m quite a sporty person so I have joined many sports groups but the only friends I seem to make are male who pretend that they are your friend when actually its turns out they have other intentions.

I could be wrong but it seems much easier for men to make friends with other men as they just get on with it and everyone seems welcome where with woman they seem to be more standoffish. I don’t know whether you have noticed that?

There is an app I use called meetup which I have been using to meet new people. I have been to some of the events and making friends is going to take time, but it is good and it gets me out of the house going to events and i’m not alone. Everyone thinks i’m mad because I go to random events with strangers but when you have no friends how do you make friends?

For me I don’t want a boyfriend what I would like is to make new friends, go on some adventures and have fun. It feels really hard and lonely at the moment but it can only get better 🙂

HJW