Katherine,

I do find it hard sometimes when I tell him what’s on my mind and all I get is a monotone “Yeah…” or “It’ll be ok…” I often get jealous of my friends because I know they can talk about emotional stuff with their boyfriends for hours and I don’t have that deep level connection, but there are so many other things that I do love and he shows his love non-verbally. We love to just cuddle and feel each other’s closeness, and he is always good about getting me flowers and expressing his love with a simple “I love you”. I now love that we can sit in silence and not have to blabber on about pointless things and he loves that I don’t sit and gossip and complain like most of my girl friends. When we do have conversations and he does open up to me about a stressful day or something, I make sure and support what he says 100%, make sure not to judge, and enjoy every minute of his openness. Connecting on deep levels is unrealistic knowing the type of person your dealing with. Try not to over-think this. Find the positives in your partner and focus on those. Hearing these comments saying “Run” makes even me question my relationship again, so I have to remember how much I love him in so many other ways. This is ultimately your decision so no one here can tell you to stay or run. I deal with the same issues, but he is also VERY kind, loving, generous person that I can’t wait to share kids and my life with. We had a talk about communication when we first started dating, and we still struggle with it today. But it’s worth working on, and your fiance has to be willing to work on it too if it’s bugging you that badly. Be proactive and be sure that it’s something you’re willing to be with forever. Don’t stress about it, it only makes things worse! I too am guilty of over-thinking this, but like I said, before I saw this post I completely forgot we even had this issue, haha. Have another talk with him about your communication, tell him it’s been on your mind, feel things out these next couple days/weeks/months and go from there. See if things improve!