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November 17, 2019 at 3:59 pm in reply to: i have no idea if this counts but i drew all the frames here #323337sadgirlParticipant
How do you post photos?
sadgirlParticipantThank you so much for your response, I am going through so much emotinal distress over our arguements. I posted a full arguement of ours for you to read and please any input that could help me is appreciated. Thank you again, it the lastone you have to scroll down past the two i messed up ones and then there is one where i bolded what i said. thank you
sadgirlParticipantWe have a lot of history going on five years together. he once lied to me and was on craigslist and other sex websites for two years talking and sending nudes back and forth to men and women. he said hes not bi and he has spiritually came a long way and want to be better so i notice his progress and any love he gives me makes me forget the bad. the bad hurts really bad though.
he is closed off and i react pretty intensely. we are both recovering addicts, when he lied i eventually relapsed after we both had 3 years together sober and i helped him get sober. i am confident in his sobrietty and my own but that lying ‘deception thing really sent me downward and i was sick for a year using heroin and i got endocarditis and we ended up reuniiting after a year of me using and he kicked me out and i just hibernated a year and got really sick. we reunited at the hospital where i am now and have been for 9 weeks on IV anitbiotics. we have a tender sweet love but he can be a bit womanizing and his mom even mentioned it to him. she use to tell me to let her know if he was mean to me and last night he told me he doesnt want to be like his father because him and his mom talked about it lasat night and she mentioned he can treat women like his father did.. his mom thinks that i turned his son into a man he used from age 10 to 34
sadgirlParticipanthe said i needed therapy and to leavse him alone 🙁
sadgirlParticipantOMG IT DIDNT SAVE IT RIGHT AGAIN,. ok so basically i messaged him on instagram about a quote that implied he thought reality was fake like all a hallucination and i just sent him a private message saying “so im not real to you? and that makes me sad” and he called me on the hpone when he woke up to tell me what he meant but was pissy and accused me of wanting ALL THESE ANSWERS when in fact i was already over the quote and happy to hear from him he just handled it rudely and i was hurt so i defended myself and by “going on and on “” he is refrring to me saying over and over “DO NOT ACCUSE ME OF SOMETHING FALSE”
well the convo is there but to make it easy to read, i am the first one and he is the one liners.sadgirlParticipantme: you always tell me to leave you alone
if you say that i will
you are so mean
You’re mean!!!!!!!!!
ok
i wont bother you anymore
sorry i was just confused
and i wanted to knwo what you meant and you make me sound so horrible
i hate my life
just dont call me ever again
i am going to make sure you dont have to worry about me anymore
You love to argue
no i am hurt
I’m not doing it
you dont get it
you fucking hurt my feelings
so fucking bad
You’re always hurt
ok
then dont be with me
You get hurt over nothing
ok dont be with me then
Something that has nothing to do with you
you said to leave you alone
thats why i am hurt
Because ai just woke up and you wanna argue
IT DOESNT MAKE IT LESS HURTFUL
AND I DONT WANT TO ARGUE
IT JUST TURNED INTO THAT
because you say things that are not even tture you cannot even handle answering me
I’m not gonna argue with you and I don’t like the way you are talking to me!
you get so mad at me
I am mad
all i did was say “that made me sad”
because i thought you were trying to imply that you think your whole life is a hallucination
I can hardly say one thing with you getti g all vent out of shspe
THATS NOT TRUE YOU JUST DONT LISTEN
you dont listen or understand
you dont answer me or help me understand nicely
you just basically make me feel stupid
and that is your way of settlingit
YOU ARE THE ONE TGAT DOESNT UNDERSTAND!!!!!!!!
and then get mad when i defend myself
I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU MEANT NOW
IM HURT ABOUT THE WAY YOU HANDLE IT
AND HOW YOU TELL ME TO LEAVE YOU ALONE
Then let it go!
AND IMPLY THAT I WANT TO ARGUE
I DONT WANT TO ARGUE
I AM HURT THAT IT TURNED INTO ONE
You are argumentative
I DONT EGET HOW IT DID or why YOU say LEAVE ME ALONE
its you say hurful things
you dont know how to answer a question nicely if you think its stupid that im asking
if you dont get why i am confused you answer me like im dumb
and thats why we argue
Because you were attacking me!
ATTACKING??????
I JUST SAID “THIS MAKES ME SAD’
YYOU THINK IM NOT REAL???
yes!
it was a question
Omg Jade
not an attack
I WAS EXPRESSING MY FUCKING CONFUSING TO YOU
I was letting you know that i dont get it and hat it makes me sad
you couldnt just explain it to me
You are stressing me the fuck out right now!!!
all you do is get ffrustate
ALL I DO IS STRESS YOIU OUT
LEAVE ME THEN
Just let me have a relaxing day off
that means minus me
you make that so obvious
i will leave you alone
sorry i am too much for you
Right when I wake up you wanna fucking argue!!!
The quote has nothing to do with you!!!!
You make my blood pressure go up
Wtf now I feel like shit cuz my blood pressure is up
This is not healthy
then go be with someone you love
go be with someone who you like
You made me feel sick from the way you came at me
I feel physically sick
I feel like you came at me in a negative way
so do i
im crying and the nurse had to come in
I wasnt even trying to argue with you
you took it too seriously and when you just pop off on me
i canot handle it
it really hurts me
you talk to me like im dumb
That’s not right the way you do that to me. You don’t listen at all and always draw your own conclusions.
and i did whaty ou said to do
and you still get mad
THAT IS NOT TRUE
I WASNT EVEN MAD ABOUT THE QUOTE
I WWAS HURT WITH YOUR FIGHTING LANGUAGE
I’m not gonna continue to argue with you
YOU use the most hurful language
you say “leave me alone”
THAT IS WHY I AM CRYING
AND YOU SAY “YOU JUST WANT ALL THESE ANSWERS”
i just asked one question
Because multiple times I said I didn’t want to argue but everytime you continue.
and said it made eme sad
I JUST SAID THE SAME SENTENCE
You don’t listen to me
NOT TO ACCUSE ME
I SAID DONT ACCUSE ME OF THAT
OVER AND OVER
YOU KEPT ACCUSING ME OF THE WRONG THING
I WILL TEL LYOU WHAT I WAS DOING
I say I’m done but you keep going!
i was not even mad
i was getting more and more hurt
by the way you just have no patience
you just get aggressive
Do not send more than 5 messages at a time!
and it hurts me and we are arguing because you say things like ‘YOu jst want aall these answers and you just want to argue
I just fucking woke up!
i was not trying to but we started arguing when you said that
I JUST MADE ONE COMMENT ABOUT A PHOTO AND I DID WHAT YOU SAID WHEN I HAVE A QUESTION TO MESSAGE YOU PRIVATELY
You are too demanding!
BUT YOU STILL GET MAD
I DIDNT DEMAND ANTYHIGN FO YOU
I WASNT EVEN REALLY UPSET ABOUT IT ANYWAY
I HONESTLY WOULDNT HAVE MENTIONED IT AGAIN
I AM MORE HURT BECAUSE YOU SAY LEAVE ME ALONE AND TELL ME I LIKE ARGUING
I AM MORE HURT BU THE HTINGS YOU SAY ABOUT ME
I LOST INTERESTED IN THE QUOTE HOURS AGO
YOU CALLED ME
AND I JUST SAID 2 THINGS?
I had to say that because you never listen
ON INSTAGRAM????
I WAS LISTENING
YOU WERE TALKING
YOU ACT LIKE IM THE ONLY ONE FUELING THE FIRE
I said I didn’t want to argue!!!!!!
You keep in goi g though!
YOU ARE CONSITENTLY SAYING REALLY HURTFUL THINGS PUTTING ME IN DEFENSE MODE
YEAH YOU MADEME FEEL DEFENSIVE
Here you go again
YOU MADE ME FEEL BAD ABOUT MYSELF
WHEN I JUST ASKED YOU A
WO
WOW
OK
you say things like that
and wonder why i cry
and why i get upset
im going
YOU INVALIDATE ME
You continue to try to argue
YOU MAKE ME FEEL UNIMPORTANT
you are hurting me
I’m done going back and forth
Morning is ruined
MY WHOLE DAY IS
i’ll be crying all day
you dont care
I’m in a horrible .Ood thank you
you dont care about me
you are so mean to me
i want to die
what else do i do to make you misterable
just go then
leave me
block me
You need to be in therapy
just BLOCK ME
YOU DO
go away
you are hurtingm me
you kepe hurting me more
you love to do that
You don’t respect boundaries
i said to go
You are so forceful and pushy
i am in the middle of talking to you ,its not like you arent talkging to me
You don’t respect me or my health
you are asking questiond AND SAYING MEAN THINGS ABOUT ME
i dont?
really
h\
You removed a message
just leave me
i bet you can find someone better
im a piece of shit to you
i cant stop crying
why are you saying these things to me when i just said something made me sad
when you called i wasnt even mad
i fell back asleep
yes i kinda was curious what it meant but i didnt feel lmad
or upset
it was the things you said in the phone call the hurt me
and made me feel like shit
just go be with someone else
i wont bug you anuympre
You need to recognize when I need space and do not want to talk anymore
YOU WERE SAYING THINGS
YOU DONT LET ME DFEND MYSELF
everything you said to me was so hurtful
and you just expecet me to take it
just to like agree with you
How can i feel loving towards you
when you say things like that
You provoke me then act surprised when I get mad!
I DIDNT PROVOKE YOU
I JUST DID EXACCTLY WHAT YOU SAID
I HAD A CONCERN AND I ASKED YOU PRIVATELY
I wasnt even mad when you called
you just confronted me like it was an arguemtn
you dont see what you did
elliot you never KNOW how i feel
hyou think you do and you’re so wrong
you think you know everything
you think i just try to argue
you dont think that maybe something in the phone call you saaid was really uncalled for and not even the same mood i was in?
you brought a different mood to the conversation than what i was going for elliot
you misunderstood my tone or something from instagram and then immediately waere like “why do you send mssageges like that” griping
like making me feel worng right off the bat
you cant just ask me what i was confused about nicely
it has to be like you getting frustrated everytime
and then i cry because you cant talk about anything without saying im not giving you space
you have no idea how it was meant to be heard
I’m not spending my entire day off messaging back and forth with you. You make me feel like I can’t breathe sometimes.
you are so hurtful…
okay
i wont bother you sorry I make you so mad and miserable. sounds like you need to be without me
You don’t no when to stop.
instead of spending your whole day why not end it now and be kind
but no
you just want ot make me feel worse
everytime yo usay “yo dont know when to stop I LET OUT A CRY
AND I CANT STOP
I’LL STOP
BYE
10:58 AM
you keep throwing out negative things about me and then i say something in return because i am HURT
and you fucking accuse me of not giving you space
you say “you keep going on
You removed a message
You removed a message
You removed a message
you dont see how you were the one who kept saying something hurful KNOWING I WAS CLEARLY HURT ALREADY
and you like just wanted to say somethign without me responding to it
that is fucked up
you keep saying im hurt over nothing (invalidating my feelings again) and you dont even get why im hurt STILL
you think im going on about the quote but i am just responding to your words!
and your words are hurtful like “Leave me alone” “you need therapy”
I have been crying since you called me and when you called me i was happy to talk to you i thought we were going to get along this was not what i was expcting you are grumpy all the time and i cannot say anything to you, remember you got mad not me
i got HURT
I GOT HURT by you telling me to lesave you alone and then you just kept sending me mean one liners and i would respond to your messsages, i was not just talking to myself YOU WERE TALKING TO MEsadgirlParticipantOur most recent argument started out as me seeing a quote he posted on his Instagram about our realities possibly being a hallucination and i sent him a private message stating that does this mean that you think I am not real? I asked the question playfully and never meant for it to be so serious and he called me first thing when he woke up and saw the message confronting me by saying “why would you ask me such a thing ” and I said well because your core beliefs effect me in some way and he said “its not directed towards you” My reply was “I know it wasn’t directed towards me it indirectly effects me I was just wondering what your personal beliefs were in regards to it” and he then says “you just want to argue and accuses me of needing “ALL THESE ANSWERS” And usually I just say ok drop it, but this time I was like “DONT ACCUSE ME OF THAT, YOU ARE WRONG, he would reply”i dont want to argue you woke up mad or whatever and i just kinda kept reinstating what i said “YOU KEEP ACCUSING ME OF THINGS THAT ARE NOT EVEN TRUE’ then he eventually made me feel like i was disrupting his peace of mind and said I am too intense for him its too early and of course i was really happy to hear the phone ring knowing it was him not even expecting this to become a huge fight. I ddint really become that hurt until he said “LEAVE ME ALONE LET ME HAVE A RELAXING WEEKEND” and i am always very affectionate and loving with him, when we argue its pretty intense no abuse phsically though, we both disagree really bad sometimes it hurts me deeplywell here is the entire conversation :ME: you always tell me to leave you aloneif you say that i willyou are so meanhim : you are mean!!!!!!!!!!!ME:oki wont bother you anymoresorry i was just confusedand i wanted to knwo what you meant and you make me sound so horriblei hate my life i want to diejust dont call me ever againi am going to make sure you dont have to worry about me anymore(I meant just by not answering his calls not suicidal i only say i want to die when i am REALLY HURThe says: you love to argueme: i am hurthim: you’re always hurtme: ok then dont be with mehim: you’re hurt over nothingme: you said to leave you alone on the phone!him: something that has nothing to do with you!me: its not the quote its what you said on the phone!him: because i just woke up and you just wanna argueme:IT DOESNT MAKE IT LESS HURTFULAND I DONT WANT TO ARGUEIT JUST TURNED INTO THATT DOESNT MAKE IT LESS HURTFULAND I DONT WANT TO ARGUEIT JUST TURNED INTO THATbecause you say things that are not even TRUE you cannot even handle answering mehim: I’m not gonna argue with you and i dont like the way you’re talking to me!me: you just get so mad at mehim: i am madme:all i did was say “that made me sad”because i thought you were trying to imply that you think your whole life is a hallucinationhim: i can hardly say anything with you getting bent out of shape (at this point i fel like i would never make sense to him and it was hardly true bc he makes me so happy when we are getting along but when he doesnt see my point he is very hateful)me:THATS NOT TRUE YOU JUST DONT LISTENyou dont listen or understandyou dont answer me or help me understand nicelyyou just basically make me feel stupidand that is your way of settling ithim: YOU ARE THE ONE THAT DOESNT UNDERSTAND!!!ME:and then get mad when i defend myselfI UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU MEANT NOWIM HURT ABOUT THE WAY YOU HANDLE ITAND HOW YOU TELL ME TO LEAVE YOU ALONEhim: you are argumentativeme:I DONT EGET HOW IT DID or why YOU say LEAVE ME ALONEits you say hurful thingsyou dont know how to answer a question nicely if you think its stupid that im askingif you dont get why i am confused you answer me like im dumband thats why we arguehim: because you were attacking me!me:ATTACKING??????I JUST SAID “THIS MAKES ME SAD” AND ASKED IF YOU THINK I AM NOT REAL TOOHIM: yes!me: it was a questionhim:
omg jademe:not an attackI WAS EXPRESSING MY FUCKING CONFUSING TO YOUI was letting you know that i dont get it and that it makes me sadhim:You are stressing me the fuck out right now!!!me: all you do is get frustrated, all i do is stress you out. LEAVE ME THENHIM: Just let me have a relaxing day offme:that means minus meyou make that so obviousi will leave you alonesorry i am too much for youhimRight when I wake up you wanna fucking argue!!!The quote has nothing to do with you!!!!You make my blood pressure go upWtf now I feel like shit cuz my blood pressure is upThis is not healthyme:
then go be with someone you lovego be with someone you like thenhim: You made me sick the way you came at me ( im confused as hell and hurt because i dont know what he means and i feel like he is gaslighting me? like im the one that was hurt by how he came off and reacted to my question it was simply just a private message on instagram in regards to a quote saying : “im not real?: this makes me sad” and then he confronted me very rudelyME:I feel like you came at me in a negative wayI feel physically ill tooI feel physically sickI wasnt even trying to argue with youyou took it too seriously and when you just pop off on mei cannot handle ityou took it too seriously and you make me feel dumbhim:That’s not right the way you do that to me. You don’t listen at all and always draw your own conclusions (once again he is referring to the quote, totally over his head its not about the quote anymore its about how he is talking to me right now and it is getting worse and im hurting worse now)me:and i did what you said to doand you still get madTHAT IS NOT TRUEI WASNT EVEN MAD ABOUT THE QUOTEI WAS HURT WITH YOUR FIGHTING LANGUAGEhim: I’m not gonna argue with you (im thinking oh really you seem to be throwing out hurtful remarks getting me all worked upme:YOU use the most hurtful languageyou say “leave me alone”THAT IS WHY I AM CRYINGAND YOU SAY “YOU JUST WANT ALL THESE ANSWERS”i just asked one questionhim: you dont listen to meme: I JUST SAID THE SAME SENTENCE NOT TO ACCUSE ME OF THINGS IM NOTN DOINGhim: im done but you keep going! ( when he says you keep going when he is clearly also going it hurts bad, like thanks for invalidating my feelings a tenth time)me:i was not even madi was getting more and more hurtby the way you just have no patienceyou just get aggressivehim: dont send me 5 messags at once !
me:
and it hurts me and we are arguing because you say things like ‘YOu jst want aall these answers and you just want to arguehim: I Just fucking woke up!
me;
BUT YOU STILL GET MADI DIDNT DEMAND ANTYHIGN FO YOUI WASNT EVEN REALLY UPSET ABOUT IT ANYWAYI HONESTLY WOULDNT HAVE MENTIONED IT AGAINI AM MORE HURT BECAUSE YOU SAY LEAVE ME ALONE AND TELL ME I LIKE ARGUINGI AM MORE HURT BU THE HTINGS YOU SAY ABOUT MEI LOST INTERESTED IN THE QUOTE HOURS AGOYOU CALLED MEAND I JUST SAID 2 THINGS?him: i had to say that because you never listenme:ON INSTAGRAM????I WAS LISTENINGYOU WERE TALKINGYOU ACT LIKE IM THE ONLY ONE FUELING THE FIREhim: I said I didnt want to argue you keep going though! (he just gets to say that after he clearly hurt me pretty badme:YOU ARE CONSISTENTLY SAYING REALLY HURTFUL THINGS PUTTING ME IN DEFENSE MODEYEAH YOU MADE ME FEEL DEFENSIVEhim: Here you go againme:YOU MADE ME FEEL BAD ABOUT MYSELFWHEN I JUST ASKED YOU A QUESTIONWOWOKyou say things like thatand wonder why i cryand why i get upsetim goingYOU INVALIDATE MEHIM: You continue to try to argue (HE IS JUST A JERKme: you make me feel unimportant you are hurting me!!him: I’m done back and forth my morning is ruinedme: My whole day is ruined i’ll probably be sad all day and you dont even care you will just go on your day and forget about me while i’ll be hurthim: I’m in a horrible mood. Thank youme (by now im just in shock at how hurtful he can be and why is he being so coldyou dont care about meyou are so mean to mei want to diewhat else do i do to make you misterablejust go thenleave meblock mehim: You need therapyme:just BLOCK MEYOU DOgo awayyou are hurtingm meyou kepe hurting me moreyou love to do thathim: you dont respect boundariesme: i said to gohim: You are so foreceful and pushyme:i am in the middle of talking to you ,its not like you arent talkging to meHim: you dont respect me or my health
me:
you are asking questiond AND SAYING MEAN THINGS ABOUT MEi dont?really h\You removed a messagejust leave mei bet you can find someone betterim a piece of shit to youi cant stop cryingwhy are you saying these things to me when i just said something made me sadwhen you called i wasnt even madi fell back asleepyes i kinda was curious what it meant but i didnt feel lmador upsetit was the things you said in the phone call the hurt meand made me feel like shitjust go be with someone elsei wont bug you anymorehim: you need to recognize when i need space and dont want to talk anymore (WTF HE KEEPS SAYING THINGS I AM CLEARLY JUST RESPONDING TO HIM OUT OF HURT)ME:YOU WERE SAYING THINGSYOU DONT LET ME DFEND MYSELFeverything you said to me was so hurtfuland you just expecet me to take itjust to like agree with youHow can i feel loving towards youwhen you say things like thathim:You provoke me then act surprised when I get mad!me:
I DIDNT PROVOKE YOUI JUST DID EXACCTLY WHAT YOU SAIDI HAD A CONCERN AND I ASKED YOU PRIVATELYI wasnt even mad when you calledyou just confronted me like it was an arguemtnyou dont see what you didelliot you never KNOW how i feelhyou think you do and you’re so wrongyou think you know everythingyou think i just try to argueyou dont think that maybe something in the phone call you saaid was really uncalled for and not even the same mood i was in?you brought a different mood to the conversation than what i was going for elliotyou misunderstood my tone or something from instagram and then immediately waere like “why do you send mssageges like that” gripinglike making me feel worng right off the batyou cant just ask me what i was confused about nicelyit has to be like you getting frustrated everytimeand then i cry because you cant talk about anything without saying im not giving you spaceyou have no idea how it was meant to be heardhim: -
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