Hi there,

I always judged men in my life wrongly. I am 44 years old. Got divorced with first one (who was horrible and mean), was in a depressed state got in touch with this person. I knew he was complicated but still got married to him. He was okay in the beginning. He gave up his job 6 years back and since then he started changing . I think he has inferiority complex, always negative and tries to speak negative about every one he meets. He has no friends at all. He has a family history of psychologically ill sisters and now I find him to be going in same direction. Whole day , he is at home doing nothing, but reading blogs, news channels etc.. and says , he wants to write books. He started ignoring me long back. We fight once a while and he uses bad and filthy language . I am very emotional at at that times, i really shout back. But my love for him and having an adopted kid, I am holding back and staying with him. I do not have any support from my parents. But I have a job and am independent. I work hard and always excelled at work. before marrying him I had a very good job which I gave up because he wanted me to do that . His parents also do not treat me well. I have a mother who is dependent on me.
Should I pity him and live like this or bear this unhappy life every day . We do not share any physical relationship since many years. It may happen once in a year.

Can some one help me with good advice. Is it wrong to think that I want to be happy.