Clueless123 I had never had an account before but had to get one so I could respond to you. I too was in an emotionally abusive relationship for about 4 years and couldnt see it. it took something else in my life to force me into counselling to see it for what it was. Please be so proud of yourself for getting out. Life may seem so tough now but it will get better. I am 5 1/2 years out of mine now and there is light at the end of the tunnel. You will go through so many emotions and no doubt be angry at yourself for letting it happen. But it was not your fault, you are not crazy nor wrong. He was wrong and even though he may never see it, it is important that you do. I really wish you so much luck dealing with these demons as they hard work to battle but you can get there 🙂 🙂